(Closed) When to ask bridal party?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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BeeDD :  That’s one of the first things I did! We asked the bridal party about a month or two after being engaged. With about 14 months till the wedding.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I asked mine over a year in advance, but we are having a friday wedding and 5 of my 6 BM’s live out of state and I wanted them to know in advance in case they are planning to travel at all next year.  I would say you could ask them next summer, that way it’s off in the distance still but early enough it can be planned around since it’s a holiday.  I keep seeing people post about asking too early, never knew this was a thing, i guess they just have a bunch of crazies that wind up screwing up their Bridal Party

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would wait until a year out at the earliest. You can never predict life and even though these people might be for sure who you want to ask now, your wedding is almost 2 years away. Things could change and you don’t want your wedding to be sucked into any potential drama because you asked your wedding party too early.

I asked mine about 11 months out. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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BeeDD :  First thing I did! I knew exactly who I wanted. I asked them within a few weeks – in July, and we are getting married next November 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I too plan on getting married about the same time as you (late april or early may 2018).

I know who I’d like to ask but I’m going to wait until spring or so. Maybe after we come up with the guest list and select our venue. Fiance each have 4-6 people in mind but I think our wedding will be around ~65 people so we should have a smaller wedding party than that? That’s what I’ve been reading on here.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

That was one of the first things we did, right at our engagement party

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Florida

We’re not asking our party until we have a date set in stone! 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

a year before after being engaged for 10 months. Avoided any knee jerk reactions and drama potential

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Id say a year or closer to the wedding. SO much can happen in that time. We hear all the time on here ‘i asked so and so 2 years ago, now we aren’t close anymore’ etc.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We’re getting married 9/9/2017 and have been engaged since July. We’re asking our party end of this month/next month as we see them except for the two who aren’t anywhere near us. I’m sure FI’s 4 friends are expecting it, and his dad is a blabber mouth so I’m sure his brother knows it’s coming as well. We were TOLD his neices are going to be flower girls and I’ve unofficially talked to two of mine who both live more than 500 miles away (one in Ca and one in Taiwan). 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

everyone seems to do it immediatly… a quick search on here shows many regret it

 

I havent offically asked yet and its been 4 months, I want to ask people at the same time (no after thoughts) but some peoples situations are completely unpredictable for the next year or so

 

my recommendation with weddings is dont do anything immediately except research, thinking and talking

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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BeeDD :  so I just talked to the last of the people I wanted in the wedding party…and he’s already in another wedding that day. So not only will one of my oldest friends not be in my wedding, he won’t be there at all. 

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Buzzing Beekeeper

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BeeDD :  

Not too soon, that’s all I can say, a year seems like a long time out ,  but idk your friends’  situation  of course.

PS when you say ‘bridal party’  do you mean your own attendants? Cos if is  the whole  party , your fi’s and yours –  its really  a wedding party  not just a bridal one . So it would be up to him to ask his people when he wanted to , though  I’d say not too soon for him either

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