I’m getting married in two years as well (and was in the same boat!)
I felt I asked my bridesmaids too early (about a month after I got engaged on my birthday in November 2010). We are all in college, some are already finished, others are working–and I realized how I’m not very close to them anymore. They all played an important role in my life at different times and I think was too overly excited, I kind of chose on impulse if that makes sense.
I ended up asking 6 girls. Not to mention, I have two maids of honor (my sisters) and we’re having a courthouse wedding in Santa Barbara, CA. I decided to keep only my sisters in the wedding party. My fiance is only having two best men, too (a very close friend and his youngest brother). Our wedding will consist of about 20-25 guests, so it made sense for us to keep it short and sweet. We don’t really want a huge wedding–just a handful of our closest loved ones (plus, it helps keep the cost down).
I began to feel a bit overwhelmed. We are just growing up and going our separate ways–natural and sad part of life, sigh. I’ve never had “best friends” before, I mean, I’ve ahd one or two in the past but none so far in college. My fiance is my best friend, and that sort of helped me out with the whole bridesmaid thing. They all understood when I told them we weren’t ready to commit to having a large wedding party. I wrote them a letter with a photo of my fiance and I apologizing and thanking them for the honor of their love, support, and friendship. I’ve only heard back from one girl who was incredibly sweet, mature, and understanding about it. I’m not sure about how the others felt, but I think they fully understand.
So, in your situation, it’s good you haven’t acted yet. I would personally yake some time and think about it before you commit. If you’re ready to, then go for it! 🙂 It’s your wedding and you can do whatever you please. Having bridesmaids is SO much fun. But personally, if I had to do it all over again, I’d wait another year. That way, they can be given the heads up if they need to save money for their dresses, plan for your bridal shower, etc. I would say a year is much better than six months, but whenever you’re ready, that’s your decision 🙂
Happy planning, I’m sure you’ll make the best decision that works for your fiance and you–whether that’s asking them now, a year later, six months later, etc.
Best wishes, fellow Bee! And congrats! 🙂