Post # 1
I’ve got a 2 year engagement ahead of me but my Fiance and I have had our wedding party line up planned for awhile now – my BMs are either family or long-time friends – I have wanted these people in my wedding for years now and doubt things will change. Is 2 years in advance to crazy early to ask your BMs? My Fiance wants to ask his groomsmen soon too – we are both certain of our choices. Thoughts?
Post # 3
There are so many posts on here about girls who regret their choice of bridesmaids that I wouldn’t ask before about 1 year out.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Not more than 1 year out for the same reason as OP. A lot can happen in 2 years and firing a Bridesmaid or Best Man is not as easy as it sounds.
Post # 5
@MidwestBride2012: Ah I know! Thats what is scaring me. Yet I feel like I never second-guessed asking them right away until I started reading all these blogs LOL!
Post # 6
I was engaged for a year but waited until almost 6 months before asking my bridesmaids. Wanted to be sure I was making the right choice – and plus two of them haven’t always gotten along super well and I wanted to really be sure it wasn’t a bad decision to have both of them.
Post # 7
i’d say a year is fine. if you’re ordering Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, they can take minimum 6 months to come in so you want to give yourself time to dress shop.
also, depending on what your wedding entails, they can budget for wedding expenses
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2012 - The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall
Wait! I agree that one year out is probably a safe bet. You really can’t foresee how your relationships are going to change. I asked mine about 14 months out and I still had major changes in my relationship with one of the girls.
Post # 9
I am currently looking at a two year engagement also – not what we would like but other weddings/my job (teacher) have made that the best option for us. I have already asked my girls. Which I debated, but it felt right and I have no regrets doing so (I know a lot of people who have never spoken to some of the people in their wedding party after the wedding) I am just hoping that everything will work out and no friendships will be lost. However, I cant predict the furture now and I wont be able to predict it any better in 1 year. So for now I am happy and I will pray that it stays that way!
Post # 10
Unless everyone is family, ask about a year out. I asked ten months out and sometimes I regret my choices.
Post # 11
I also have a two year engagement. I asked my bridesmaids a few months after we got engaged (to let all the excitement over the engagement have some time to fade out). They are all family (sisters and cousin) but I feel like the most important thing is to still work to maintian positive relationships with the people you ask (outside the wedding). Knowing that they are still important to you for reasons other than being a bridesmaid can do wonders for your friendship.