(Closed) When to ask the MOH and bridesmaids…

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


i had trouble with this also. i got engaged this past december and am not getting married until next september. i finally just asked my Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs a few weeks ago. i couldnt wait any longer! and i also wanted to start looking at dresses etc. actually it does make sense bc if the girls get fittings by the end of THIS summer, the price of the dresses will be THIS year’s price (something to think about!) hope this helps 🙂


miss jay

Post # 4
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

personally, i would NOT ask more than a year in advance, and i would really wait until around 10 months out if you can. friendships can change so much before your wedding–you could drift apart, get in a fight, or make a brand new friend who you might become close with.

i asked mine at 11 months, but 3 of them are my sisters so i wasn’t worried about them. the other three i’ve known forever, so i wasn’t TOO concerned, but i knew it was still a little early (at 8 months out, im still thrilled with my choice!).but here’s something else…i was very close to getting engaged two years ago and a girl i would have had as one of my bridesmaids (or maid of honor!) at that point well, let’s just say i didn’t ask her to be a bridesmaid for my wedding.

i also would recommend not picking out dresses and ordering them until a few months before the wedding. if someone gains or loses 5-10lbs, you might have problems with the dress fitting. you can’t return it at that point, and likely can’t exchange it for a different size. plus, styles change, and your vision for your wedding could completely change drastically until your wedding.

i know it’s so hard to wait to ask them (or buy their dresses), but there are just so many things that might happen between now and then.

Post # 5
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i do agree with blondee…things can change, esp friendships. in my case, most of my Bridesmaid or Best Man are family and only two are my best friends so i knew that my choices wouldnt change 🙂 if you are at all hesitant with ur bm choices then i would maybe suggest to hold off.

i know for the dresses we also chose, it takes at least 6 months to get in, so im not sure how close i would wait on getting sized for the dresses, @Allin. it would depend on the shops in ur area and the dress you are picking. i went to a bridal shop in new york and it takes quite some time to come in then the fittings can start! its true that weight can def change for the girls (esp in my part…my Maid/Matron of Honor is pregnant now and her body will be totally diff by the time we get married!) however, it can help to get an idea.

best of luck,

miss jay!

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