- Mrs. Furry
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
So I don’t know if I’m the only once but this show bridezilla has made me super paranoid about coming off as one. Just me? Maybe. But I doubt it. There’s this conception that brides are crazy and all about “me me me me” all the time. Which is completely oposite of myself. Except maybe the crazy part. But I’m a different kind of crazy, the fun kind if you will. My problem is: I think I need to take one of my bridesmaids out of my wedding.. so bridezilla and dramatic and ugh.. just awful. But I’m begining to feel like I’m not going to be able to enjoy my last three months of engaged happiness that everyone else gets if I don’t. You probably need some back story.. so here it is:
My brother and his girlfriend (Amy) have been dating since I was like hmm 14? And they just recently broke up. But not before I asked her to be a bridesmaid, almost asked her to be a maid of honor. She was such a down to earth girl who was fun to be around and totally unpretentious and mellow. Not so much anymore. She’s dating this AWFUL guy. He hates my brother, which I guess is normal. But he is also a douche to my family and myself. Even though my brothers ex still tells us we’re like family to her.. or really she says, “You guys were family to me for so long..” For example, I ran into her downtown one night and walked up to her, hugged, started to chit chat when douchy new boyfriend looks over and says something to the effect of “Oh great.. it’s her again. I hate that bitch.. “. Erm.. I didn’t even look at him? I didn’t even notice he was with her.. much less ask for him to ruin my evening. Ugh. So we haven’t really talked much since then. And that was like 3-ish months ago? Maybe more? But the new boyfriend text my brother (seriously out of the blue, he’s psyco) and was like, “Eff you and your mom and your sister ugly ass b*itch.. Amy isn’t yours anymore she’s s*ucking my d*ck now and it’ll never be yours again.. ” And no, my family does not talk like this to one another. And don’t associate ourselves with people who do talk like this. Disgusting. So anyway, flash forward to my shower this weekend. She texts me at like 1 (shower started at 5) to tell me she had completely forgotten about the shower and made plans with a friend. She then said she had a sinus infection and probably shouldn’t be doing anything but since she’d made plans, she was going to hang out with her friend.. odd? I thought so. But whatever. My other bridesmaids, who have been friends with her longer than I have were pissed at her. Like livid. Apparently she told them that she felt uncomfortable around my brother.. who wasn’t even in the same city.. wtf? I honestly wasn’t mad though. I felt disrespected and unloved but not mad. Then my Amy’s parents decided to tell me that I should make the time to respond to the text message she sent me earlier (said in a rude, how dare you ignore my daughter way).
It was just dramatic and awful and ruined my shower that was set up to be so great. Not to mention my grandmother just died a week ago (at whose funeral Amy claimed my brother kissed her and she was just SOOO appauled .. he kissed her on the cheek as a hello..). I was kind of fragile to begin with and this definitely did not help. I don’t think this is going to get any better and my brother is angry at her.
So what would you do? Is there a nice way to ask someone to step down from bridesmaid status? I don’t want a fight to break out at my wedding. I know my wedding isn’t the event of the year or maybe even the month for most people, but I would let her enjoy her happiness and I want the same respect. I don’t know what to do.