When to bring up marriage again?

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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1515 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

2 years is plenty of time to wait for something to happen.  It sounds like it’s time to have a more focused talk about it.  You’re not being insensitive to anything – just bring it up.

Post # 3
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1058 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with bringing it up now. The time might not be right to get engaged NOW, but there’s nothing wrong with just having a conversation about it. “I was thinking that once I graduate in May, we don’t really have anything holding us back from being engaged. What do you think?”

I talked to my now-FI about getting engaged when we both knew it wasn’t the right time, for practical reasons. But we still were able to decide together when the right time for us to get engaged/married would be, and now that time has come, and we’re engaged. I’m glad I brought it up to him, because it really helped me not stress out at all about when we would get engaged.

Just talk to him, it will really help ease your anxiety about it if you’re able to have an open conversation about your future together.

Post # 4
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1905 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

If it’s what you want, bring it up. 

You are acting like me when I want to start a diet… I want to but I’ll wait until Monday. Or after Halloween. But then it becomes after thanksgiving. Pretty soon Christmas. Then a year later I never started. 

Ask now because tomorrow is never guaranteed and life never stops giving you excuses.

Post # 6
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1515 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

Mlim :  I’m not sure we can really answer that for you?  If he’s been positive about it in past conversations, that’s good.  But I don’t know that we could tell you whether or not it’s on the forefront of his mind.

Post # 8
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4233 posts
Honey bee

Oh please. There are ALWAYS events that occur in life, whether expected or unexpected. Life does not stop and wait so that you can get engaged. A talk with your boyfriend is long overdue, stop feeling bad about bringing it up.

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