When to bring up moving in together?

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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573 posts
Busy bee

I’ll bump you bee… Time to have the timeline talk.  Sit him down and let him know what you think and ask what he thinks about when the next steps will happen next. Sometimes boys need a little push. 

Post # 3
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2863 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

 

It’s not nagging when you’re discussing your future that’s on the line. You have a right to bring it up as often as you want. This is your life. Your lease is up in a few months, so he needs to make a decision. 

A LOT of what you wrote makes it sound like he’s making excuses not to commit to you. I don’t understand how it took two years into the relationship for it to become “serious”. And now here you are two years after that still wondering when you’re going to meet the parents. It doesn’t sound like a great situation.

Sit him down and have the talk. “My lease is up in July. Here’s what I’d like to do. What do you want to do?” Followed by, “We’ve been together for four years. I’m ready to get engaged and finally meet your parents. What do you want to do?” Get an answer, accept the answer, and then ensure that there’s follow through. And if there’s not, either accept that he won’t be commiting to you, or move on. 

Also, it is in no way normal that he won’t let you meet his parents. You’ve been together for nearly half a decade! Something is fishy there.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

After 4 years and he hasn’t introduced you to his parent…???

Every couple is different in terms of timelines. Some people move in after 4 months. Others longer. But dang after 4 years he should have an idea of whether you’re the one. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

lexnwiggy :  

Agree with curiouscat2017, how is it four years have come and gone and he has yet to introduce you to his parents?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I also can’t get over the fact that you’ve been together 4 years and you’ve never met his parents. You’re not exactly a ‘random female’ anymore. I mean it’s definitely going to freak them out now if you get engaged and move in together and they’ve never even met you! They must at least know about you though?? Do they live in another country or something?

I’d say, ‘my lease is coming up and since we’ve been together for 4 years and already spend our nights together, it seems natural to move in together. That’s what I would like to do. Would you like to as well?’ 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

If your relationship was very “casual”

And you’ve not met his parents after being “together” for 4 years

But you claim he’s old fashioned…

Quite contradictory. If he’s old fashioned, would he be in a casual relationship seeing other people freely? and still take that woman seriously? If he’s serious about you why has he not introduced you to his parents after 4 years?

Sounds like you are just a “random woman” in his life.

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