Post # 1
So my mother keeps asking me if I’m *sure* I should buying my wedding dress in August, and I keep saying yes, but I thought I’d get some input from the Hive.
I’m getting married in July 2011, and planning on purchasing my gown in August 2010. I’m planning on starting to look in July 2010 (next month). I am planning losing weight (I’m currently a size 16 and would like to get down to a size 10 or 12 by my wedding) but I know that you shouldn’t get your hopes up about how much you lose. I was thinking that in August I would order my dress as a size 16 and then just get alterations done if I shrink.
My mom suggested waiting until later in the fall or even Christmas to order my dress because she thinks that if I lose weight that I might want to purchase a different dress. I told her that I have a particular style in mind (slim A-line) regardless of what size I am, and that Christmas is too soon because it takes awhile to order.
What do you think? Am I right in finding a dress based on what I look like now, in August with plenty of time, or should I try to lose as much as weight as possible before ordering my dress. Keep in mind that my mom is a teacher and that I really wanted her to be with me to see my dress before I buy it, and she lives 3,000 miles away so Christmas is really the only time after August she could do this with me unless I just did it on my own.
Post # 3
i wouldn’t wait until christmas–dresses can take up to six months to come in and you want to leave yourself time for alterations. i’m sure you can get a dress take in no problem.
Post # 4
I dont see any reason why you cant buy the dress in August, I think December might be pushing it a little, I would order the dress at least 8 months in advance it takes a little while for them to get in and you dont want to be worried about whether its gonna be here in time or not.
As for weight loss, it kinda depends on the dress you fall for. I was told with one of the dresses i tried on (it had a lot of beading on the bodice) that the size i ordered was the size i had to stay and others i tried on they could alter down if I lost weight.
However, I would not suggest buying a dress in a size you THINK you will be, because then you may have some problems with it not fitting right if your not really that size come wedding time. Too wedding dresses tend to be a little different than the size you think you are normally. Trust the consultant when she takes your measurements, she will know what size will work best for you. 🙂
Post # 5
Because you are planning on alterations, I wouldn’t wait till Christmas. If you are sure that you’d want a A-line gown, even if you did lose the weight, then there’s no need to hold off. Also, while it’s great to try to tone up and get healthy before your wedding, it’s a LOT of stress on the bride to try to lose a certain number of pounds or get to a certain size—that would be a lot of stress on you between now and the months leading up to Christmas. It doesn’t hurt to start looking now and if you find something you love, buy it!
I just bought my dress for my July 2011 wedding. 🙂
Post # 6
I agree with the above poster. PLS do not wait until December to order your dress. The way you currently have it timelined/mapped out in your head is great. And yes don’t worry about the weight – thats what alterations and dress fittings are for On a side note, wedding dress sizes are not the same as street sizes DO NOT let that scare you. I just remembered about wanting your mom with you…Maybe you can figure out what designers your most drawn to then learn their ETA timing. I don’t think all dress designers take 6 months, lol
Just for example, I am a street size 0/2 and my dress had to be ordered in a size 8. Oh and I ordered it in January and its set to arrive next month…
Post # 7
I think you can get one now.
Just make sure that the dress can be taken in a few sizes since you are planning on losing weight.
Post # 8
I agree with the other ladies that you should go ahead and order in August. December seems to be cutting it a bit too close, depending on how long it takes you to find a dress, and how long it takes the designer to make the dress. It’d suck to have to pay rush fees!
Post # 9
I had an 8 month engagement (getting married 7/31/10). I ordered my dress in mid-February and it arrived in late May. My first fitting was yesterday and my final fitting is just 9 days before the wedding. I’m really happy about how it worked out, but I recognize that some options were closed to me due to tight timing and there was no margin for error (it would have been a problem if my dress order was delayed or incorrect).
Many bees order their dresses far in advance have lots of time for changing their minds and second-guessing their choices. I’m glad I’m spared all that (it’s too late for second thoughts). Don’t wait as long as I did, but in my opinion, 8-10 months is plenty of time to get a great dress without stress, but not so much time that you’ll drive yourself nuts with all the “what if” possibilities. Good luck with the weight-loss program. The slim a-line is a very classic and flattering style — nice choice!
Post # 10
I started looking a year before my wedding…. and then it took me 6 months to ind my dress. lol. My dress is taking 3 1/2 months to come in, she’ll be here in mid-August.
Post # 11
I ordered my dress December 8th, it came in March 8th. I then waited over a month to have my first fitting. My first fitting was in May. My wedding is this weekend.
I have been steadily losing weight for about a year. In December I was down about 38 pounds. We ordered the dress to fit my biggest measurement.
When I went for my first fitting I was down about 60 pounds AND the dress came in almost true to size. She had to take three sizes off the dress.
This caused some issues. She had to take SO much off that there were issues of gaping around the chest and armpits. Also, some of the boning was off in the chest, because the original was for someone wider… and moving boning.. well it wasn’t something she wanted to have to get into (read timely and expensive..)
I would wait. At most dresses take 6 months to come in… and alterations people need 6-8 weeks. I’d wait till 8 months out and see how you are loosing.
Good luck in your journey, and if you need more info, feel free to message me.
Post # 12
@Ella: Thanks for your perspective! I’m not sure if I have that much weight to loose! I am planning on losing about 30 lbs, not 60 or more. I’ll definitely talk to the bridal consultants ahead of time to make sure that the dress I get will be able to be taken in as needed.
Post # 13
I’m getting married 7/31 and we got engaged last year at the end of October (10/23). I had to move it on picking out a wedding dress but most of the shops I visited in the first two weeks told my my drop dead date for ordering was the first or second week in January. I went to a wide variety of wedding stores too–from David’s Bridal to Vera Wang and all basically gave me the same time line. I ended up ordering my gown the weekend before Thanksgiving (11/20 or so), it showed up 4/1, I did alterations at two different points (beginning of May and beginning of June) and it is now being shipped to me =).
In terms of the weight loss, I would say that you should keep in mind that alterations are expensive. I wouldn’t wait until December, but I would consider waiting until the early Fall if you think you can drop some/all of the weight between now and then. I lost 20 pounds from when I bought my dress and it took two appointments and a couple hundred dollars in alterations to get it to fit (the fabric on the front is very detailed and had to be retacked into place). That being said, the woman told me altering down was no big deal and altering up was almost impossible/would ruin the fabric of my dress if I had needed that.
Post # 14
I would wait. Even dresses they say take 8 months can be made much more quickly. So often people buy dresses early and have regrets and losing weight will add to that. I lost 7 pounds and thought dresses looked very different after that.
Perhaps you and your Mom could go shopping in both August and December. In August you could get a better idea of what is out there and what you like. In between you can research brands and shapes that you liked. Then in December you can try on your favorites and your decision will be easier.
Post # 15
I bought a dress what i concidered early 8 months until the wedding (early for me) I knew i shouldnt start looking yet because i know how i am and i change my mind 100000 times. I didnt listen to myself and went shopping with friends too early. And guess what my dress came in and I didnt like it/ changed my mind. I went out yesterday and found a new one I really like, My mom and friends love! It will come in 2 months before the wedding and i wont have time to change my mind. Thats what i should have done to start with and i wouldnt have an extra dress now.
Post # 16
I would wait. I am getting married July 17, and I didn’t order my dress until Thanksgiving last year. I did this because I know that if I ordered it any sooner – I would probably change my mind or gain/lose weight (which I did!) Gained sadly 🙁 So I am VERY glad that I waited until when I did. My dress came in around the end of May which left me almost a month and a half to get alterations which is plenty of time IMO.