(Closed) When to call after a new mom has her baby…

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How do you contact a good friend after they've just had a baby?
    I call as soon as I'm able - if she's not up for talking, she'll tell me! : (5 votes)
    9 %
    I send a text first to see if she's up for a phone call : (22 votes)
    39 %
    I send a congratulatory text and wait for her to get in touch with me : (14 votes)
    25 %
    I wait until they're home from the hospital and then give her a call : (15 votes)
    27 %
    Other (please explain below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1346 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Personally I wait for a few days.

    If its a really close friend I will go to the hospital the third or fourth day after the baby (if they are still there) or if we werent really really close I would wait a few days from when they got home and called (after sms’ing to find out a good time)

    Post # 4
    Member
    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I didn’t want to talk to anyone besides my super close friends for maybe a week. Dont get offended if it takes a bit for her to call you back 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    1949 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My friend had her baby on Thursday night. I texted her on Monday morning and asked what night would be best for her for a visit she told me what nights were good, so I picked this Friday, so the baby will be a week old. I don’t plan to stay for long, just a quick chat, take over some food, and a little gift, offer to load the dish washer, snuggle the baby, andi’ll be out!

    Post # 6
    Member
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    If she contacted you from the hospital, I would assume you are quite good friends. Therefore, I think a call, especially with a text first is totally fine. One of my BFFs just had a baby and she was happy to text when she had down time int he hospital. She also said she was mostly whiped out the whole time in the hospital and for 2 full weeks there after and she ahd a standard delivery. Based on that, I would not expect to visit a less close friend for at least 1-2 weks after she is home unless she wanted/asked for my help with cooking or babysitting.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1058 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    YOu can call. Don’t have to be on the phone long, just a quick call… hello, how are ya will do. if she has to go she will tell you and call back. You will learn if the baby is awake during the days, at night and when u two can communicate.

    Post # 8
    Member
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I think it’s okay to give her a call. If she’s not up for talking, then her phone is probably off or on silent, so dont be offended if she doesn’t answer! In my experience, I welcomed calls in that first week. I think some of my friends were so careful about trying not to bother me that I ended up like…”hey where is everybody?!” Lol!

    Post # 9
    Member
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    No babies here, but I’ve found it works really well to text first, or even do a text convo. That way if mom is interrupted by a nurse, baby, whatever – she can reply at her convenience rather than having to hang up. The night my BFF got home from the hospital, we talked on fb chat for a good 30 minutes, and it was a lot easier for her than doing a phone call.

    But your friend might want a call too – so shoot her a text and ask if she is up for a quick chat!

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