Post # 1
One of my good friends lives in a city about 6 hours away from where I am now. She just had a c-section yesterday and gave birth to a gorgeous little boy, which we are all thrilled about! She sent me a text shortly after the baby arrived to share the news and of course I promptly responded with a text congratulating her etc.
Now it’s the next day and I’m wondering if I can give her a call of if I should wait for her to call me. I’m pregnant myself but don’t know how I’ll feel in this situation – part of me thinks I’ll want people calling but another part of me thinks I’ll be tired/emotional/in pain and will not really be up for conversation with friends/extended family, especially in those first couple of days when I’m just trying to take everything in with my husband and new baby.
So for those of you who have already had babies – what were your thoughts on being called after having a baby? Did you like when people called you or did you prefer that they send you texts instead? Would you have rather people waited until you were out of the hospital or did you enjoy the distractions whilst in hospital?
Not a huge issue but I just thought I’d throw it out there to see what people’s thoughts are!
Post # 3
Personally I wait for a few days.
If its a really close friend I will go to the hospital the third or fourth day after the baby (if they are still there) or if we werent really really close I would wait a few days from when they got home and called (after sms’ing to find out a good time)
Post # 4
I didn’t want to talk to anyone besides my super close friends for maybe a week. Dont get offended if it takes a bit for her to call you back 🙂
Post # 5
My friend had her baby on Thursday night. I texted her on Monday morning and asked what night would be best for her for a visit she told me what nights were good, so I picked this Friday, so the baby will be a week old. I don’t plan to stay for long, just a quick chat, take over some food, and a little gift, offer to load the dish washer, snuggle the baby, andi’ll be out!
Post # 6
If she contacted you from the hospital, I would assume you are quite good friends. Therefore, I think a call, especially with a text first is totally fine. One of my BFFs just had a baby and she was happy to text when she had down time int he hospital. She also said she was mostly whiped out the whole time in the hospital and for 2 full weeks there after and she ahd a standard delivery. Based on that, I would not expect to visit a less close friend for at least 1-2 weks after she is home unless she wanted/asked for my help with cooking or babysitting.
Post # 7
YOu can call. Don’t have to be on the phone long, just a quick call… hello, how are ya will do. if she has to go she will tell you and call back. You will learn if the baby is awake during the days, at night and when u two can communicate.
Post # 8
I think it’s okay to give her a call. If she’s not up for talking, then her phone is probably off or on silent, so dont be offended if she doesn’t answer! In my experience, I welcomed calls in that first week. I think some of my friends were so careful about trying not to bother me that I ended up like…”hey where is everybody?!” Lol!
Post # 9
No babies here, but I’ve found it works really well to text first, or even do a text convo. That way if mom is interrupted by a nurse, baby, whatever – she can reply at her convenience rather than having to hang up. The night my BFF got home from the hospital, we talked on fb chat for a good 30 minutes, and it was a lot easier for her than doing a phone call.
But your friend might want a call too – so shoot her a text and ask if she is up for a quick chat!