Post # 1
Hi Bees! When are you supposed to cash the checks that you get as a wedding gift? Especially those you got before the wedding.
Here are my thoughts:
Cashing them BEFORE is tacky! Definitely wait until after. HOWEVER what if you cash it at a time that’s not good for the gift giver? So maybe avoid beginning/end of the month? When you get gifts up to a month before the wedding how long should you wait? Is there any rule?
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2017 - The Summit Country Day School Chapel/The Hilton Netherland Plaza Hall of Mirrors
I’m not aware of any rule but I would probably wait to cash it until after the wedding. I wouldn’t worry about cashing it at a time that is good for them. Hopefully they wrote a check in an amount they are financially able to give and that money has been budgeted as a wedding gift to you. Just my 0.02.
Post # 3
I don’t think cashing a check before a wedding is tacky, I think waiting to cash a check is worse! The longer you wait the harder it is for peoole to balance their books and if you wait too long it could be forgotten! I always cash checks within a week.
Post # 4
RosaBride: I would cash/deposit the check as soon as you receive it- right after you send the thank-you note. I would not, however, spend it. Like all other gifts, it should be reurned if the wedding is cancelled.
You wouldn’t ignore another gift until after the wedding. Why ignore the check? The giver will know that you received it and that it has cleared their account.
Post # 6
julies1949: I want to send the thank you notes after the wedding though, not before. and definitely not the days after because ordering them with the pics and all that will take some time.
lifeisbeeutiful: that makes sense, that’s what I thought. But is it ok if the thank you notes come a few days/weeks after?
Post # 7
RosaBride: If you need a reference, Google Miss Manners or Emily Post. Both of them say that all thank-you notes should be written when you receive the gifts.
Post # 8
RosaBride: a guest would often prefer a timely Thank You than one with a photo. It helps them to be sure their gift arrived and it always feels nice to get a Thank You. Don’t delay the Thank Yous just for the sake of the photos! You can always send a separate letter with a photo later on.
Post # 9
It’s definitely not tacky to cash a check prior to the wedding — as a gift giver, it annoys me when people drag their feet on cashing my checks, because I like to balance my checkbook and having outstanding checks is just a big pain in my butt.
I do, however, find it rude for people to not properly thank the gift giver promptly. Waiting until after the wedding to send a thank you when someone took the time to send a gift before the wedding it’s appropriate – thank yous should be written as soon as the gift is received.
Honestly, I throw away thank you cards, photo or no photo. I’d rather receive a gracious acknowledgement of my gift as soon as it’s received than waiting weeks for a photo card that’s going in the recycling pile anyway.
Post # 10
I honestly dislike waiting four months for a thank you just so the couple can send a photo card. I was at the wedding, I know how they looked! Would rather get a timely thanks so I know they actually received the gift.
Post # 11
Waiting to cash it is annoying for the giver.
I wouldn’t spend it until after the wedding.
Send a thankyou immediatley after receiving a gift. I once received a thankyou 6 months after a wedding. I found it exremely rude.
Post # 12
RosaBride: i didnt even read your post, bc the answer is very obvious- doesnt matter when you get a check – you cash it immediately and send a thank you as well. I hate when people hold onto checks, its so rude
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
A thank you note should be sent right after the gift is received. Cash checks upon receipt; the giver will be grateful.
Post # 14
one more for
– thank you notes should be within 2 weeks of recieving a gift, always
– cash the check immediately–nothing worse than having a check you forgot you wrote being cashed 2 months later. Yes, people should keep track of the checks they wrote.. but sometimes our bank accounts go a little lower than we realized and suddenly you’ve got a bounced check which is both embarassing (since its a gift) and costly.
Post # 15
Cash the check immediately!