Post # 1
OK – I’ll start by saying that I’m not expecting gifts/money from people for my wedding. I am certainly not asking for any money. But lets face it, poeple generally give a gift of $$ (usually in the form of a check) at a wedding.
Normally, my policy is that I don’t cash checks (given to me as a gift) before I write the thank you card – this is my incentive to write thank you cards in a timely fashion. (i.e. if I want to put the money in the bank or spend if, I better thank the giver first!!)
However, we are leaving for our month-long honeymoon the Monday after the wedding. We won’t have time to write thank you cards on that Sunday. Should I let the checks we get as gifts sit for 1 month before depositing them (i.e. not deposit them before I write the thank you note) or should I deposit the checks before the honeymoon and just accept that my thank you cards will be 1 month late?
What did you do?
Post # 3
I’d deposit as soon as possible, even if you can’t write thank-yous right away. It’s a big deal to some people to have a check waiting to clear for a month. They’d much appreciate if you deposit right away. I’m sure they’re not expected a thank-you note immediately!
We deposited all cash and checks right away, but it took us a couple of months to get thank-yous out because we were waiting on our pro pics to come back.
Post # 4
We deposited immediately…too scared of somehow losing them! People understand thank yous can take some time post-wedding and it can mess up some people’s checkbook balancing systems if you deposit later.
Post # 5
Definitely just cash the checks-I always assume the check will be cashed far before a thank you card and I prefer it too.
Post # 6
I HATE when people don’t cash my checks within a reasonable amount of time. Do it right away and just make sure you’re disciplined enough to send the thank yous as soon as you get back.
Post # 7
I think that cashing the check soon after it’s received is best because otherwise the giver has to keep that check in mind when using their account until it clears and if it’s more than a month later they may forget that it’s out there.
Post # 8
I’d say prep some thank you cards in advance and do all you can to send them out Sunday. Have your husband do half and get a sister/mother to help if possible. You can pre-write “Thank you for your generous gift” on a few cards if you’d like and have a ready-to-go list of things you’ll say you will spend the money on. With a basic outline set up, you should be able to whip through them. If you have a registry, less than half of your guests will likely go the check route.
Oh, and pre-stick/type/print the return addresses for the thank you notes.
Post # 9
I would deposit them right away, people could have problems with their bank accounts if you don’t. I definitely would not wait a month.
Post # 10
For the same reason, we didn’t cash our checks until a few weeks after we got back from our honeymoon. Though, I still took 3 months to send out my ty cards :T
Post # 11
I did not even consider the aspect of how not having a check cashed can screw up balancing the checkbook – good point!!
Also – we planned on using a wedding photo for the thank you cards, so we would not be able to do them the day after anyways.
Post # 12
@Ms. Blue: this! i am one of those people who balance to the penny – so an outstanding check would drive me nuts!
we cashed checks immediately!
Post # 13
@Rock Hugger: If I were the check writer, I would absolutely prefer that you cash the check – the sooner the better. I’m a nut about balancing my checkbook, and when people take weeks to cash checks, it really irritates me! I’m sure people won’t think anything of it if you cash a check before writing the thank you card. Plus, uncashed checks can be a liability issue if something were to happen (knock on wood) and they got stolen!
Post # 14
we deposited the checks when we got back from honeymoon. which was about a week later. I dont think one week should amke that much difference to peoples bank accounts. IMO if the bride and groom cash the check the very next day after the wedding it just seems like they couldnt wait to get their hands on the money
Post # 15
@bells – yes, but my honeymoon is 1 month long….which is a bit different than waiting a week after the wedding.
Post # 16
I say deposit them right away. If you wait a whole month, people may forget they gave you money and you could have bounced checks.