Post # 1
I have kind of never understood why at weddings no one ever eats the cake right after dinner. Like you would at say, a dinner party. From what I’ve seen at weddings, dinner ends, dancing begins, the cake is cut, there’s more dancing, the cake is brought out to the tables and ignored because very one is dancing, and then the caterer picks up lots of uneaten cake. I really hate wasting food, so I was thinking we might cut the cake between courses and serve it immediately after dinner. Is there some reason I shouldn’t do this?
I know I’ve read somewhere that cutting the cake signals that it is OK for the guests to leave soon after, but still… to me it doesn’t seem like a good enough reason to wait…
Post # 3
We are grappling with this too…. My parents seem to agree with the idea that it signals the end of "mandatory" wedding time. However, I talked with an event planner and she recommended having it cut and ready around the end of dinner, since it will be the only dessert. Right now, the plan is to cut it towards the end of dinner (it is a buffet) and then it will be cut and served about 1.5 hours after dinner is begins.
I’d love any input any one else has!
Post # 4
I’ve never thought about that. That’s true that when cake is served everyone is dancing…well except me b/c i love cake..lol. I may mimic your plan loloeleven.
Post # 5
We are planning to have cake after dinner, before dancing. I think that people will stay to socialize and dance. That’s how my sister did it at her wedding, and while a few people left soon after the cake, most of the rest stayed until the band stopped playing.
Post # 6
We cut our cake right after we finished eating our dinner (some guests were still eating). We then did our father/daughter and mother/son dances and then the real dancing began. For us, we got all the formal stuff out of the way and guests just got to enjoy for however long they wanted to. We also asked them to serve cake only to those sitting down and place the rest on a table near the dance floor for anyone who would not be going back to their place for cake. They didn’t, but that’s another story!! I hate missing the cake when they put it out at empty spots and then clear it before anyone had a chance to eat it!! Especially with how much you pay for it!
Post # 7
We did things a little less traditionally, but I have seen it elsewhere as well… As we were announced into the reception, our bridal party and parents walked directly onto the dance floor, rather than to their seats. We did the same, and immediately went into our first dance. Halfway through our dance, our parents and bridal party started to dance as well (this counted as the bridal party dance, although we saved the mother/son dance, etc, for later). After the song ended, my husband and I cut the cake, and then it was ready to be served as dessert. Later in the evening, we had a pasty and coffee table set up, but it was important to us that everyone have cake, since a family friend made it for us. It worked out really well. Good luck in making your decision!
Post # 8
I like Tipperella’s idea. I can’t count the times that I went back and I didn’t get cake! I love cake! Plus, I think if you leave it near the dance floor or the bar people will take a break from dancing when they need a drink and have a slice, I’d rather have a bunch of uneatten cake than have them just toss it! What a waste!
I’ve been in weddings where they saved the first dance for after dinner and I’ve also been in ones where they did the formal dances when the couple is announced. I much prefer that. People can all watch the dances and aren’t distracted by the meal. And the bride and groom get to actually sit down and eat the food that they planned so hard for.
Post # 9
Does cake cutting vary by location? I’ve been to 10+ weddings in the Midwest and the wedding cake was served as dessert immediately after dinner at ALL of them. There was still plenty of socializing and dancing long after the cake was cleared.
When to cut the cake was never a question in my mind until I started planning my own schedule. I moved to the East coast and I found it strange that the caterer and DJ both asked what time I’d like to cut the cake. You can take the girl out of the Midwest… but I will serve cake after dinner.
Post # 10
I think that the idea of the cake cutting being a signal that it’s ok to leave is from our parents generation and older. But most likely, those are the people who would leave earlier anyway…
I am glad to see that I’m not the only one wanting to serve cake close to the end of dinner!
Post # 11
I’ve been thinking about this, too. I also like tipperella’s timeline, too… it’s just going to be awkward to coordinate my dress change with it! I still have this feeling that the cake-cutting signals the "end" of the reception… but I don’t think that when the cake is cut will determine how late our guests stay.
Post # 12
I dont think the cake cutting means leave applies toma wedding, anymore.