When to disclose pregnancy during hiring process? (already showing)

posted 1 week ago in Career
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

You absolutely have to disclose this to avoid wasting time before meeting them 

Post # 3
Hostess
8531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

lantana :  You have to disclose this. They may want the position filled before March 2020 and probably won’t appreciate having their time wasted. Sadly, it being your dream job, doesn’t make you their dream employee. Best case scenario they want you and are happy to wait. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

lantana :  Are you even sure you would be qualifying for maternity leave of “a couple months” at a job you had only worked at for a few weeks?  I would check the policies on this.  You wouldn’t qualify for FMLA, nor parental leave in my state.  I think you would be subject to whatever policies the employer had on their own, and I can’t imagine they would want to do that.  I would definitely want to discuss this with them.  If you trick them, you may end up having to quit to have the baby anyway.  Unfortunately, starting a new job in your third trimester of pregnancy may not work out that well.  That said, I hope this employer is understanding and lets you start in March!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

lantana :  tell them you can start in March and hope for the best. While you think you could squeeze in 9 weeks on the job, realistically you can safely pop anywhere from 36 on which would only be 5 weeks from now. Or even have a preemie (let’s hope not!) and have less time.  

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Tell him you can start Monday, because you can. Then, when:if you get an offer, tell them I would love to accept but I need to discuss maternity leave as I am x weeks pregnant. My expected due date is x and I would like to take x time off. Blah blah. If they say omg forget it we are withdrawing your offer, then you wouldn’t want to want to work there anyway. If they come back and say since you’ve worked here less than a year, all you are entitled to is blah blah, then decide if that works for your or not. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

And it’s not a fucking trick to interview while pregnant and wait to disclose until you get an offer. It’s the equivalent of a man countering to his offer and saying actually I won’t work for you unless you pay me 10 grand more. This omg you have to disclose you are tricking them thinking is why women get crapped on for being pregnant. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

SLOBee :  God thank you for this. Boggles my mind people think you need to disclose this. I would show up to an in person with my big belly hanging out and not say a damn word.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

SLOBee :  I agree. I don’t think she has to disclose being pregnant but realistically they wouldn’t have her start this coming Monday and that pushes the start date out even further. If it takes them a week or three to finish interviewing candidates and make an offer she could theoretically have the baby by that point. And then she says “well I could have started 4 weeks ago but now I can’t start until March”. I don’t think it’s the same as countering a salary offer; this would be more like saying “my salary requirements are $50k/year” and then when they offer you $50k you say “well actually I need $60k”. You’re moving the ball on your requirements. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I am not pregnant. I had an interview yesterday and told them I could start immediatetly. If they don’t extend an offer for 3 weeks, it is possible I’m no longer available, because I got a different job, or I got hit by a bus, or I’m on vacation in the Arctic. My point is, she should NOT tell them she’s about to have a baby before they give her an offer. I do think it is not realistic to assume that you’ll get a lot of maternity leave when you start a new job pregnant, because most laws won’t protect you and it is up to company policy. So if your scenario plays out, and she gets the offer after she’s delivered, she needs to be realistic and shoot for the moon but prepared to go back to work in a few weeks if she really wants the job.LilliV :  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

SLOBee :  Couldn’t agree more. You are not tricking them by not saying your pregnant on the phone. I think you should absolutely disclose when/if you get an offer, or in your case, when you interview in person. If you are their dream candidate they will work with you. We have hired pregnant people in the past and my friend has gotten hired while pregnant. It is not something that precludes you from doing your job. Just be upfront on your due date and how much time you plan to take off. Is this your first? If so, make sure you give yourself some extra time off. If this is your second or third, you should know how much time off you truly need and it will be a part of the negotiating process. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME

I would not disclose! If they don’t hire you because you are pregnant, it is discrimination and illegal. If you have an in person interview, I would open the door to discussing maternity leave (they’ll be curious), but being a pregnant woman does not disqualify you from deserving a great job. Don’t give them a reason to dismiss you before even getting your foot in the door.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think you have to disclose over the phone, but I would want to know what their leave policies are before I accepted the position. I wouldn’t want to take the job and then find out I can only have 2 weeks or something since you won’t be covered by FMLA.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

You are under no obligation (legal or otherwise) to disclose that you’re pregnant. They cannot legally ask you if you’re pregnant. They cannot (but may) dismiss you for being pregnant. 

Dont tell them, and don’t feel guilty about it. It’s not like your maternity leave in the US is long anyway, they will be fine. Sometimes women have babies. Employers have processes to follow when that happens. I can’t believe people here are telling you that you “have” to tell them. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

carowl :  If she’s not covered by FMLA the company can literally tell her to be back the next day. I would hope the company would have a better policy than that, but legally they are not required to hold her position.

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