Post # 1
I’m fully aware that it’s illegal to discriminate against pregnant women, and I know enough not to mention that I’m pregnant during the interview but I don’t know at what point to reveal that information.
My company is a not-for-profit with financial issues and I’m not sure how much longer I’ll have a job. It’s horribly stressful, especially with a baby on the way. I’m only 15 weeks so it isn’t clearly visible, especially if you don’t know me. I figure it’s better to go through the interview process now rather than what until I get laid off when I’m visibly showing.
I have been through the interview process with one company and am actually expecting an offer, and I have another lined up on Friday if that doesn’t work out for some reason. I just can’t figure out whether I should tell them during the interview/negotiation process or work a few weeks and then tell them.
Darling Husband feels that it’s lying and misleading not to tell them up front but I’ve asked some other people in the professional field who are high level managers and they seem to have a don’t ask don’t tell policy. When I asked if the company would be mad that I didn’t tell them up front and he said don’t be naive of course they get upset but it happens all the time. The other said he understands why I’d be concerned about it and I’d just have to take it on a case by case basis.
One caveat, during the interview process the owner of the company did ask me if I was going to be needing any extended time off soon, such as a backpacking trip through Europe. I said no. Technically 6 months isn’t soon to me but they may still consider it a lie. It’s not a small company by any means and there are other people trained to do the job I’ll be doing. The department isn’t huge but I really don’t think it’ll be an issue.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@sit1010: the owner of the company did ask me if I was going to be needing any extended time off soon
A friend of mine was a headhunter and he said this was how he asked women if they were pregnant and expecting to take maternity leave in the near future. Since you said no, I would wait a little while before telling them you’re going to need some time off because they’re going to be upset and that can be alleviated if you have already show yourself to be a good worker. I wouldn’t wait too long since you will likely start showing soon and the cat will be out of the bag.
As far as it being lying, if companies wouldn’t discriminate against hiring pregnant women, then there wouldn’t be a need for pregnant women to lie during interviews.
Post # 4
@beachbride1216: I had a feeling that’s what he was trying to ask. I’m hoping I can go a month without showing too much, maybe 5 weeks. They’re all really excited to bring me on board, they’ve made it very clear. And they’re a family friendly company. So I guess we’ll just see how long my belly allows me to hide it.
Post # 5
@sit1010: As someone who just went through this I have to say it depends on the person.
I found out I was pregnant after my second interview, so went to the third knowing, but chose not to tell them because I knew there were a lot of other people interviewing as well. However, it would feel like a lie to me to not share it. Plus, I had a previous miscarriage and didn’t know what would happen/I’d have to leave early for doctor’s appointments and wasn’t sure how I was going to do that without coming clean.
Even though everyone told me to wait I chose to tell when they called and made in the offer. Nothing had been signed by either party, and I asked them if it would be a problem to please tell me. Although I could tell my hiring boss was not exactly excited he was very understanding and made it clear they still wanted me at the company.
The only people that know here are my direct supervisor and our head boss. Now that I’m actually working I’m SO happy they know. Getting off early for the doctor’s appointments is easy, and they do subtle things out of consideration that no one else would notice like giving me the light boxes to carry when we’re setting up for an event.
The only thing to note is maternity leave. I hope by January I’ll have proved myself worth keeping, but we are prepared financially if they choose not to hold my spot since I’ll have been here less than a year and therefore legally they have no obligation to maternity leave laws. So that’s something you’ll want to keep in mind while looking.