Post # 1
DH and I have been trying for a baby since Jan, and getting mildly irritated with the biological side of things.
I’ve seen some articles online that state that if you BD only when you have a positive ovulation test, then you’ve missed the fertile period and should go sooner.
Others say the egg arrives about a day after a positive ovulation test and you should BD for 3 days after this because that’s when the egg is ready and waiting, but not when the test is positive. I am baffled.
Say you get a positive ovulation test on Monday. So far, we’ve been DTD on Monday, Tuesday, and usually Wednesday. Is this wrong? Should we be doing different days?! I’m scared that I don’t understand and we’ve just been missing the fertile days entirely!!
Thank you for any advice you have!
Post # 2
Ovulation tests track a spike in LH. Once that spikes most women ovulate within 12-36 hours. Nothing is guaranteed as ovulation can be delayed, you can have a cyce and LH surge and not ovulate etc.
As far as DTD… daily during your fertile time is good unless your husband has low sperm count or something. So I would DTD the few days leading up to ovulation (sperm can live in the female body up to 3-5 days), and also on the spike day and few days after.
If you guys cant have sex that frequently for whatever reason then I would say start DTD once you see your peak and do it daily for the next 3 days if possible. None of this is an exact science and even if you time it perfectly it can take time.
Post # 3
Start tempting as well! As soon as you get your positive opk, start dtd every other day. You can stop once you have confirmed ovulation with a sustained temp rise. I seriously recommend reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility to get more informed on the biology of it
Post # 4
By ‘peak’ what do you mean?
For example I got a positive ovulation test on Saturday. Is peak likely to be today/tomorrow so we should try every day this week?
Post # 5
Hi Bee. I would reiterate temping, temping will confirm the day you ovulated after the fact in addition to the ovulation tests. My husband and I DTD everyday during the fertile window until ovulation was confirmed via temping. However we did find this stressful, and our last cycle (which was cycle 14!!!) we DTD every other day during the fertile window and this is when I actually got pregnant. It made it less stressful for both of us, and I think it helped (currently 13w1d).
Post # 6
It took us 12 months to get pregnant; when we finally did it was during a time we DTD every day for 2 weeks straight
Post # 7
Peak = positive ovulation test. You should ovulate 12-36 hours after. So ideal you have sex the day before/day of/day after or two… but some couples cant do this. My FH and I have sex usually twice a day all the time so if you can do daily great! If not, try every other day.
Some bees have also mentioned temping which can confirm ovulation. My sleep routine doesnt work for tempting but it can be very helpful!
Post # 8
second the opinion to read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. We always DTD every other day when I started getting fertile cervical mucus and it did the trick. We tapered off after confirming O via temping and never used OPKs. We got pregnant on first cycle trying (ended in MC), got pregnant again on first cycle trying (ended in MC) and then got pregnant on the second month trying with our rainbow 🙂
Do what works best for you but I highly recommend tracking cervical mucous and staining to DTD as soon as it becomes watery and definitely DTD when it’s EWCM.
Post # 9
We tried to DTD every other day but the month we got pregnant was a weird schedule for us. I’ve attached it. I got my positive/peak OPK on the 30th. And we DTD then. I think that was the one that did it for us.
Post # 10
Below are my OPKs from the month we got pregnant. So you can see I peaked on CD12 and then it was ‘positive’ for a couple days after. My temp confirmed O on CD 13. We continued to BD CD15, CD17 and CD20. The hearts are markers for DTD.
Post # 11
Most women ovulate 12-36 hours (maybe up to 48?) after a positive OPK. And then the egg lives 12-24 hours. I temped and charted between my two babies. I usually ovulated about 12 hours after a positive OPK (ovulation cramps and then temp rise the next day confirmed 3 days later). Having sex 3 days after a positive OPK would have done me no good. If you start tracking what day you get a positive OPK, use that as a baseline and have sex a couple days before in addition to having sex on peak day and the following days.
A much easier method is just to have sex every 1-2 days when you have fertile quality cervical fluid. You don’t have to have sex every day. Sperm can live up to 5 days. My second baby is an O-5 baby.
Post # 12
Definitely definitely definitely read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It will teach you so many things about your body you will be angry no one had you read it at the age of 12!
Without temping, I would not have know I ovulate late and would not have correctly timed sex. OPKs are a fine start but if you are getting impatient (and I understand why you would be!) then cut through the guesswork and start temping. You will feel so much more in control of this process!
Post # 13
I can empathize with your frustration as it all seems to be a bit of a guessing game!
I just listened to an interesting podcast which argued that cervical mucus is a better guide than OPK’s. The reasoning was that women who rely predominantly on OPK’s tend to get stuck in the mindset that they ovulate on a predictable day each month, rather than paying attention to their body’s natural signs and being open to the idea that their ovulation day may fluctuate month to month. If you DTD when fertile CM is present, sperm can live for a few days in that fertile mucus. So DTD as soon as you see fertile CM, even before you get a positive OPK, could increase your chances of sperm being present when the egg decends. (the podcast was Fertility Friday, episode 149)
Personally, I do use OPK’s as a guide and am sure to DTD the day I get a positive as well as the day or two afterwards. This month, I had EWCM starting on CD11, which was a sign for me that I was ovulating earlier than usual and I started using OPK’s then. I got a positive on CD13. EWCM disappeared on CD14.
I don’t temp currently due to an inconsistent sleep pattern, but the one month I did showed I ovulated the day after a positive OPK. Charting might give you peace of mind about when you are ovulating.