Post # 1
I have never done this, but I need some help and advice. About a year and half ago my sister got engaged. I am and was so happy for her. She had been dating her financee for a long time, so we were thrilled. I was especially happy because about 6 years ago I married and was divored within two years, so it was great to see her in love.
When she got engaged I had been dating someone for about 6 months. She told us then that we could not get engaged 8 weeks before her wedding. At the time we were not even talking about it. We have now been together for almost two years and I am ready to get engaged. I am not sure when it might happen, but we have talked about and the wedding itself.
We will be paying for the wedding, so I am concerned with cost and would like a winter wedding. My sister has now told me that I am not to get engaged before her wedding and it would be hurtful and inconsiderate to do so. I would be stealing her thunder. I do not want any attention and only want to focus on her and I have made that clear. What do I do? I am a bad person for wanting to get engaged?
Post # 4
Yeah, when is her wedding?
Post # 5
Sorry, I think you sister is being a bit much. Get engaged when you want to get engaged. Youe engagement will not take the spotlight off her.
Post # 6
You can get engaged whenever you want.
Post # 7
She’s being hurtful and inconsiderate by making up bogus rules for you to follow. Get engaged whenever you want.
Post # 8
I would politely tell her to suck it.
Post # 9
@Sking: Lol, I was thinking something along the lines of, “The future Mrs. ___ respectfully requests that you bite her ass and stop being a twit.”
Post # 10
I could see her not wanting you to get engaged AT her wedding, but I don’t see why you can’t get married in the weeks leading up to her wedding. She can’t corner the market on love until she gets married.
Post # 12
She’s being ridiculous… get engaged!
Post # 14
Your sister got engaged a year and a half ago? Holy cow when is the wedding? Are you supposed to hold off for some indeterminate time?
Post # 15
If anyone ever tried to tell me when to get engaged, I’d do it on the most inconvienient date for them (like at their wedding). Because I’m a spiteful bitch like that.
But really, she has no say in when you get engaged. No say AT ALL.