(Closed) When to get engaged

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Uh, your sister needs a big ‘ol reality check. And pronto. Hooooly bridezilla!

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Sking: Haha, love it. Perfectly concise! Get engaged on your time, not hers. Just not at her wedding Wink

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think your sister is being selfish. She gets one day…. she can’t tell you when to get engaged. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@notsurewhattodo: No matter what “she decided”, you and your SO can get engaged whenever you darn well please. I agree with Sking…although if it were me I would omit the “politely” part 🙂

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@Mrs.H2B: right? that’s exactly what I was thinking!!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You’re not a bad person at all.  She’s being ia selfish brat.  What freaking difference does it make if you get engaged in the 8 weeks prior to her wedding?  I mean, I can understand being pissed if he proposed to you at her wedding but that’s not gonna happen, sane/tactful people don’t do that crap.  You shouldn’t put the events of your life on hold because she’s getting married.  It’s ONE day. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Get engaged and don’t tell her. 😉

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

She needs to get over herself.. you can’t put other people’s lives on hold just because you’re getting married.  Get engaged whenever you want!

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I hope you don’t get pregnant at the same time– You can’t have your kid within 8 weeks of mine– cross your legs and don’t go into labor!

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@KoiKove: you sure have a point. no need to steal birthday thunder either!

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My vote is to get engaged when you and your man are ready.  People will always find a reason to complain.  My sister SCREAMED that our wedding was going to upstage her graduation a month later…well, guess whose graduation got bumped from Aug. 2011 to May 2012?  The only perfect time is what works for you and your boyfriend.

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If you had mentioned engagement like…a year ago, she would probably tell you that you had to wait another 15 months until her wedding for you to get engaged.  

Do it when you want to!!  I guess you could hold off announcing it to your extended family until afterwards, but if you’re ready NOW, then do it NOW.  

 

Wedding day = 1 day =/= 1.5 years.  

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