Post # 1
About 3 weeks ago, we got new neighbors in the rental across the street from us. Looks like a younger couple (mid 20’s) with another girl spending a lot of time there as well. And I should also tell you that we’ve not met them. They are not the neighborly type. Well this morning, there was a huge fight between the guy and the girl (with the girl doing most of the yelling). After about 20/30 minutes of this, the guy leaves and soon a couple of mini vans and the other girl came and pretty much moved the girl out.
So I have a question. If and when should a call be made to the cops? The fight sounded like it was just yelling, no physical abuse but I’m also aware that verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical. I don’t want to butt in their business but I also don’t want to be the neighbor that didn’t do anything. I was starting to get a little nervous because it really bothers me when people yell and scream at each other and I was debating getting the cops involved when the guy left. She’s moved out and who knows what will happen but what to you ladies and gentlemen think of the situation? Would you have called the cops? Wait until it the fighting becomes a regular occurance (this was the 1st fight I’m aware of)? Mind your own business and not say anything at all?
I just really want to know where is the line to cross from minding your own business and getting cops/authorities involved to stop violence before it starts?
Post # 3
I think i’d stay mum until it a) sounded threatening b) i felt threatened or c) it occured more than once. I’ve lived near shady people and sometimes putting your neck out there isn’t worht it for YOURSELF. But if it woke you up in the middle of the night, it sounded like things were being thrown, or it sounded like someone was in danger, I’d call anonymously (and state that i definitely want to stay anonymous) that there was a disturbance and you are concerned for the girls’ safety.
I tend to mine my own business as much as I can though. A fight is a fight and that’s relatively normal. Plus, she moved out. Calling the cops on him coudl just make it worse for her, too.
Post # 4
Yeah, I always try to lean on the side of minding my on business but then I think that maybe sometimes domestic abuse can be stopped before it starts if someone gets involved.
But I definitley agree with your thoughts on this. I didn’t really feel that anyone was in danger. Just a lot of F bombs being dropped.
Post # 5
I also tend to mind my own business unless it seems very threatening. Especially if it is indoors….people sometimes don’t realize you can hear them.
One time Fiance did call the police. There was a guy and girl (young) walking down the street and decided to stop caddy corner from our house. Our kids were outside playing and Fiance and I were tending to the yard and the conversation got heated, there was cussing, the guy threw his bottle at the girl and it looked like he might hit her. Fi asked them to please take it somewhere else, kids are around (not just ours) and then the guy started to get angry with Fiance. So we got the kids inside and Fiance called the police. They already knew who he was and he had been in trouble for domestic violence before. We’d never seen him before.