(Closed) When to "give away" bride in ceremony — someone tell me please?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

My dad was there with us for quite a bit. I don’t remember exactly how long, but it certainly wasn’t like, walk down the aisle, hand her off, and continue.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

And see, mine was the opposite.  He walked me, the minister said, “Who gives this blah blah blah”, my dad said “her mother and I do”, took off my veil, and sat down.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think usually it happens pretty much straight after you and your dad make it to the end of the aisle. The officiant does a little greeting (“We are gathered here today…etc.”) then does the part about “Who presents X to Y?”

Obviously it’s up to you, your dad, your fiance, and your officiant as to what timing you want to use, but I don’t think it seems too long the way you have it planned (between prayer and reading), though it depends on how long the greeting and prayer will go for, how long your dad can stand (if there’s health issues, he may need a seat sooner, if he loves being centre stage, he may never want to sit down!).

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve usually seen it done right after walking down the aisle and I think that works best purely for simplicities sake so that your dad can sit down or stand with your mom and you can focus on your honey. But there’s no reason you can’t switch things up if you want!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I thought it happened right after you get up to the front. Kinda award for your dad to remain standing for so long?

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

From Peggy Post’s *Wedding Etiqutte* and the section dedicated to Christian Protestant Marriages (at least most of the mainstream ones)

The Episcopal Ceremony is taken from *The Book of Common Prayer* and has five parts, which follow the Processional of the Bride, and her Attendants:

1- The Priest begins with the call to worship:

“Dearly Beloved, we have come together in the presence of God to witness and bless the joining together of this man and this woman in Holy Matrimony”

2- The Declaration of Consent

3- The ministry of the Word using one or more Scriptural passages

4- The exchange of vows and blessing of the rings

5- The blessing of the marriage

The Attendants stand on both sides of the Bride & Groom throughout.  Personalization is permitted in the form of any number of readings and the inclusion of religious music — usually solos but sometimes hymns sung by the Guests.  The Ceremony, with the celebration of Holy Eucharist, takes about 45 minutes.  Without Communion, the service is about 20 minutes long.

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After the Ceremony is conducted, the Minister Pronounces the couple to be Husband & Wife.  The Bride & Groom kiss.  The Recessional Music begins, and the Bride & Groom walk up the aisle followed by their Attendants.  The Ushers return, and escort the family members from the front pews.  The remaining Guests, exit begining from the front.

Hope this helps,

 

 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

So I just checked our script, which was adapted from the suggested ones used in the Methodist church (there’s a book of ceremony scripts and such but I can’t remember what it’s called; ETA: Book of Common Prayer–thanks PP!). We did not change the order of any of the ceremony.

  • Family entered
  • Groomsmen, groom, minister entere
  • BMs entered
  • Bride and FoB entered
  • Greeting (friends, we are gathered…)
  • Declaration of intent (MrsS will have you MrS, etc… I will)
  • Declaration of support by those congregated (=guests) (I am going to ask all of you friends and family gathered here a question. The correct answer is, “We will.” But you say it only if you mean it. Ready? Will all of you do all in your power to support these two in their marriage by the grace of God?)
  • Presentation of Bride (Who presents this woman to be married? FoB: “Her mother and I.”)
  • Prayer
  • Readings (2)
  • Pastor’s message
  • Exchange of vows
  • Blessing of and exchange of rings
  • Declaration of marriage
  • Prayer
  • Lord’s Prayer
  • Sending forth
  • Kiss
  • Presentation
  • Recessional

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@pricklypig:  I just PMed you the entire script in case you want more for reference. Good luck building your ceremony!

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@pricklypig:  In the Christian Faith there are slight variations between Denominations.  Peggy Post’s *Wedding Etiquette* lists detailed info for the following branches… Catholic – Episcopal – Baptist – Lutheran – Methodist – Presbyterian.  As well they have info for an Eastern Orthodox Wedding Ceremony.

Other Religions covered in detail include… Jewish – Mormon – Islamic – Hindu – Sikh – Unitarian Universality – and Quaker.

So if you let us know what Denomination / Faith applies we can give you even more details either here, or you can send me a PM

NOTE – Be aware that some Churches / Religions don’t allow any changes to the prescribed format.  More than one Bride has been disappointed when told this info by the Priest / Pastor…

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We did ours a bit differently.  My dad walked me down the aisle, “gave” my hand to my Darling Husband, then went to sit down with my mom and nana.  Our minister made some opening remarks and then asked my parents, nana, and DH’s parents to all stand.  He asked my parents & nana something along the lines of “Do you give your blessing for this marriage?” they responded.  Then he turned to DH’s parents and asked if they also gave their blessing to which they agreed.  I thought it was a nice twist on the traditional “giving away” of the bride and a sweet way to incorporate DH’s parents into the ceremony as well.

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