Post # 1
So I know that it is traditional to give them their gifts at the Rehearsal Dinner. However, I’m buying them all jewelry that I would like them to wear with their dresses as their gifts. I have been thinking about giving them their gifts after my shower or after the bachelorette party.
Is that ok? How have others handled bridesmaids gifts that are part of their wedding attire?
Post # 3
I bought my girls necklaces and am giving them to them at the Rehearsal dinner the night before. I have told them that I bought their necklaces as part of their gift so they know they are getting them
Post # 4
I am giving them their jewelry as part of their gift as well. But I’m still doing it at the rehearsal dinner. I’ve just told them to not worry about jewelry for that day and that I’ve got it covered! I am giving them other things as well so it doesn’t spoil the entire surprise!
Post # 5
Ok. I wish I wasn’t such a visual person. I need to see them in the jewelry before the wedding just in case it doesn’t work with their dress, I may want them to have back up.
I do like the idea of just telling them not to worry about the jewelry. Maybe I can just have back-up jewelry for just in case.
Post # 6
Culd you pos pictures of the dresses and jewelry? You’d get some opinions. Then you wouldn’t have to worry too much. I too gave jewelry at the Rehearsal Dinner.
Or maybe you could get an opinion from your mom, or even go down to the bridal salon to compare to the dresses. The bridal ladies are often helpful with those opinions.
Post # 7
I’m in the same boat. I didn’t get my girls jewelry, I got them shawl/wrap things. I’m planning to give them their gifts at the rehersal, and let them know they are for the next day, if they’re cold. Hopefully they’ll use them.
Maybe you could give them a card that says something like "I hope you’ll wear this necklace with pride during the wedding" or whatever.
Post # 8
If you’re worried about how the jewelry looks with the dresses, ask your Maid/Matron of Honor to do a little "fashion show" and have her try it on with her dress to see the completed look.
I also agree with some of the other posters, if you’re going to give them the jewelry at the rehearsel dinner, make sure that all the girls know not to worry about jewelry!
Post # 9
So I decided to give them little clutches instead. I just have to see it before the rehearsal dinner together, I would hate if it looked bad. I’ll still get a bunch of jewelry for them too choose from (I’m talking forever 21 chandeliers). That’s the other thing, I would feel kind of cheap if I gave them earrings that I bought for only 5 dollars as their gift.
Thanks for the feedback!
Post # 10
Interesting! I didn’t know you were supposed to give them during the rehearsal dinner. I am having a local friend in Wyoming make my ladies some bracelets to reflect their favorite color/ birthstone (I am WAY excited about this!) so I don’t think some of them will go with their outfits. So I’ll just give it to them and if they want to wear it during the wedding, that’s fine.
Post # 11
I think they’ll appreciate the clutches AND the jewelry…they don’t have to know how much it cost!
Post # 12
I didn’t know that you were supposed to give them the gifts during the rehearsal dinner. I was thinking about giving them the gifts on the morning of the wedding. Although we are likely going to have a big sleepover party (and a bridal shower the night before… we are doing destination) of my BMs and me, so i was thinking about giving it to them then.
OR, since I am getting married in Hawaii, i was thinking of getting them cool towels, canvas vags, flop flops, etc…. so maybe now that I think of it, I’ll have it set up for them in their rooms when they get there and then give them a little something special the night before. 🙂
Post # 13
i’m splitting up their gifts. I’m giving them (an ipod nano with a playlist to get them ready and energized on the big day..we’ll all be up at 6am, sea salt scrub and personalized stationary that i’m making for them) on our mendhi night/rehersal dinner and after the wedding, when we get our professional photos, i’m making each of them personalized photobooks.