(Closed) When to give the tallis?

posted 9 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
156 posts
Blushing bee

maybe you could present it to him at your ketubah signing (when he’s supposed to veil you). That seems egalitarian and sweet 🙂 If not, maybe at your rehearsal??

Post # 4
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey

This is such a sweet idea!

When do you imagine him wearing it?  If you’re doing an auf ruf, and you’d like for him to wear it for that, perhaps you could give it to him the shabbat before the wedding?  Otherwise, I agree with Coccinelle that the bedecken might be a good opportunity, since he could veil you and you could place the tallis on him.  (Assuming you’re not wearing a tallit yourself.)

My husband’s family gave me a tallit when I converted; it’s among the most sentimental items I own!

Post # 5
554 posts
Busy bee

My Fiance is Sephardic so I am following the tradition and surprising him with it under the Chuppah then he will say S’hecheanu and put it on.

Post # 6
1 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m also planning to offer a tallis to my fiance, and I am considering two options: either give it to him the Shabbas before – after we both go to mikvah, or give it to him the day of a civil wedding, which will be about 3-4 days before the religious one.


Post # 7
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Fiance (and I to some degree) is adamant about not wearing a kittel, so he is going to wear a tallit instead and I will be buying him one.  When we went over the time line with the rabbi, it was decided that Fiance will walk down just in his tux and then he’ll put the tallit when he’s under the chuppah. For purposes of time and other matters, it’ll just be waiting there for him; he’ll have seen it before hand though.  No need on our part for a major surprise, since he knows he’s getting one and giving me the necessary length, and it’s just going to be a basic white one.

Post # 8
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We did a first look and I gave my husband his tallis then.  He wore it for our formal photos and our ketubah signing.

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