(Closed) When to give your Bridesmaisd there gift?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: When should i give them their gift?
    The BBQ the day before wedding in front of everyone. : (11 votes)
    44 %
    The day of Ceremony while we're all getting ready. : (13 votes)
    52 %
    A few weeks to a month before. : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    1774 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Why not find a time to pull them aside individually before/after the BBQ? That’s what my friend did for her wedding and it felt really nice that way. It felt like she was stopping right before the big day and recognizing us individually. 

    Post # 4
    1140 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think at the bbq in front of everyone is a bit much. Like my other girl friends, I am gifting them their presents the day of while we are hanging out and getting pretty.

    Post # 5
    2073 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I gave mine out at our rehearsal dinner but it was just the bridal party and spouses along with parents.  You could try to pull them aside at the BBQ and do it privately, but I think most people will understand that the gifts are for the wedding party and not get offended.   

    Post # 6
    338 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    A friend of mine gave out gifts to the attendants and special people during the rehearsal dinner and instructed them to open them up during their thank you speech. This was in front of 50 friends and family. It wasn’t awkward or anything.

    Post # 7
    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    no problem doing it in front of others. or take them a side during the bbq and do it privately. i would’t wait until the day of, i think it will be busy enough.


    Post # 8
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    The best friend for whom I was maid of honour gave us our bridesmaid gifts during the speeches when they were thanking everyone, but if you’d like them to wear it during you wedding day, I’d go for giving it to them as you’re all getting ready together it the morning because it’s a special time to share with these ladies who are close to you and to show them a token of your thanks and frienship (unless you’re concerned with them already wearing their own jewellery that day?).

    Post # 9
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Traditionally, a Bride-2-B would host an event for her Attendants to thank them… either a Tea or a Luncheon… in the days or weeks just prior to the Wedding, and that is when you’d make the Presentations of their Gifts.

    But it is also quite acceptable (as per Peggy Post *Wedding Etiquette*) to give the gifts at the Rehearsal Dinner, or if there is no Rehearsal Dinner planned, then following the Rehearsal itself.

    And if it is a time when a whole lot of people are about, I’d take them aside privately so as not to embarass them or yourself (embarassing to you, because you obviously won’t have gifts for everyone in attendance)

    Hope this helps,


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