(Closed) WHEN to go around and thank everyone?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’ve always seen speeches done before dinner is served. People generally talk with their tablemates during dinner.

We went around during dinner which worked out well. Everyone was comfortable in their seats and we didn’t miss anyone. Some people do lines after the ceremony or at the start of the reception but I didn’t want to make anyone wait on me. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee

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AlwaysSunny:  This. Traditionally speeches are before dinner and the bride and groom greet each guest during dinner. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee

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AddieNicole:  you eat and then go around to greet your guests 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

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AddieNicole:  you ready fast and you probably don’t get a lot.

We thanked everyone during dinner and did speeches as everyone was finishing. I didn’t want to make everyone listen to the speeches on an empty stomach.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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AddieNicole:  Depending on how many courses are served at your reception, try to time speeches in between the courses. If possible, keep the speeches brief (a few minutes).

For my wedding, there were about ten tables to visit so during the meal, we would do two or three tables and take a quick group photo as well. We would return to our table to eat and start all over again until we visited everyone.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

The head table usually gets served first so you’ll have 20 mins or so to grab something before greeting others. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

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AddieNicole:  our DJ suggested we follow this timeline and honestly I think it’s the best way to do things because it breaks up the “boring” parts lol.

Intro to reception

First Dance

Cake cutting (so servers can cut the cake during dinner and it’s ready as soon as people are done eating)

Speeches (just Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man so it wasn’t long at all)

Dinner

Father/daughter & mother/son dances

Open dancing

My husband and I were served first so by the time everyone else was served we were almost done. I went around and said “hi” to everyone during dinner. It worked well because everyone was starting to finish eating so I wasn’t really interrupting their dinner but they were still all seated and it made it so I wasn’t talking to everyone while I was wanting to dance. My husband got caught in the hallway while I was doing this so he spent the majority of the reception talking to people and was barely on the dance floor.

Another reason we did the speeches before dinner was because typically people are super nervous about speeches and it allows them to get it over with quickly. I was my friend’s Maid/Matron of Honor and the speeches weren’t until after dinner and I was so nervous the whole time that I couldn’t even enjoy my dinner. I was really disappointed that half of the reception was ruined for me because I was anxiously waiting to give a speech. Just some food for thought.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

This is interesting to read. I figured it would be best to do our toasts during dinner as guests have food to keep them happy but they’re also seated to listen. Then we would go around towards the end of dinner and greet everyone and hand out our favors. I hadn’t considered doing everything before dinner. Hmm…

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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AddieNicole:  we went around in between courses.  We then had speeches during desert, and we kept the speeches short and sweet. My only advice is to make sure you hit every table.  I was at one wedding. dinner took like 3+ hours (other issues) and they still only spoke to half their guests.  So basically they didn’t thank half their guests and i was unimpressed.  

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