- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
So… My mom, Maid/Matron of Honor, and BMs are all throwing me a shower. They wanted it to be a surprise but they can’t agree on when so they’ve asked me when I want the shower.
Both my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor have emailed me because this has been a very heated argument for them since it was mentioned at our engagement party a few weeks back..
I’m getting married March 2, 2013. My Maid/Matron of Honor was thinking that we can have a late January shower.
February is out because I will be gone from January 27- February 23 on business (crazy I know)!!!
My mom thinks that it’s awful to ask people to give a shower gift that shortly after the holidays-especially since my entire family is traveling to Florida, – to spend the holidays with our great grandmother. Our family is very large and even with giving just the children a small gift, we spend nearly 1000 dollars (there are over 30 children under 10…to give you an idea).
Also, apparently, my Maid/Matron of Honor has admitted several times, that she doesn’t know how she’d be able to afford a shower (even with others helping) right after the holidays.
My mom has asked some of my aunts about this and they said that unfortunately they wouldn’t be able to attend and give a gift that shortly because of the holidays and how expensive the FL trip will be.
My mom is thinking that I should have a mid-late October shower.
The issue with that is my Maid/Matron of Honor is getting married November 3 of this year, so she really wants to focus on her wedding for the month of October. Her bachelor party is going to be October 13, her rehearsal dinner has to be the weekend before the wedding, so that’s October 27. it really only leaves October 6, and 20th- and her shower is a surprise, so she’s not sure if it will be in September or October.
They all agree that Thanksgiving-New Years day is off. So I suggested the weekend after her wedding, but she’s going away for the 1st two weekends in November, which puts us right at Thanksgiving weekend.
I’ve read some etiquette things, and it seems like a bridal shower can be held up to 6 months prior to a wedding… which puts us at October.
I’m not really sure what to do. They both freaked out when I suggested not having a shower, but they cannot come up with an agreement and they’re looking for me to decide!