(Closed) When to have a bridal shower for a March Wedding

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1961 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Considering everything you said I think an October shower would be best if your Maid/Matron of Honor does not mind. Have you sat down to talk to her about it? I would let her know all of the constraints listed in the message you posted. Let her know that you don’t want to take the focus away from her wedding and see if she has any other suggestions. 

Otherwise you may want to have the shower after Christmas and have your mom and other family members spread the word so that it’s not a bombshell on them. If people are given enough of an advance warning they will probably set aside a little money for a gift.

Post # 4
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

October seems to make the most sense- most showers are 2-3 months before a wedding, so MOHs should be Aug/Sept. Since Maid/Matron of Honor isn’t hosting the shower by herself, it should be fine- your Mom and the other BMs can do more.


Post # 5
4800 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think late January makes the most sense. I know that the rule is technically six months, but I have never been to a shower that early, it seems odd to me. As far as the money issues go..if they can afford a shower in October, what is the problem with putting that money aside and spending it in January instead? That would give them more time to save, with October they have less! And it does seem kinda awkward to have your shower so close to your MOH’s wedding when yours isn’t till March.

Post # 6
6890 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Okay, since I can very obviously relate to your date (haha!) I’ll just share.

I had both of my showers in February. One was the very first weekend in Feb (was going to be last weekend in Jan, but got postponed bc Bridesmaid or Best Man was going to be OOT) and the other was mid-Feb.

We had the same discussion over and over and ultimately it was decided that if people could put away money for a gift in November (when we were considering) they can do it for Jan/Feb/March if they so choose. If not, that was cool too. It’s not like showers force people to buy something, they can always decline.

Now, one thing I did make sure to do was have a lot of affordable stuff on the registry and to get my registry info out before Thanksgiving that way if people wanted to they could shop the sales and just stash it until Jan/Feb. Lots of them did this, my crazy friends that do Black Friday and the after-Christmas sales.

I personally find having it in October a bit awkward being so far out, if I’m being totally honest. I don’t think it’s “wrong,” but I don’t think it is all that fun to have a “Wooo you’re getting married here’s all this stuff” and then wait another 6 months before you’re actually married.

I know our date is hard to work with, I didn’t realize it until I was working these kinds of things out either! It sounds like a fine time of year and then you think it’s really not that far after holidays. I also have a huge family so I totally get what you’re saying, but like I said, people can put the money away if they really want to.

Post # 7
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My sister decided 11/3 she was getting married on 12/17-exactly 1 week before Christmas Eve. She decided 11/19 was her bridal shower. Our family lives paycheck to paycheck, consistently, so they really don’t have “extra money”. My mom had been saving for my wedding since I had already been engaged a year, so she used that money to pay for my sisters wedding and bridal shower. My sister’s 20, her Maid/Matron of Honor is our 18 year old cousin who just started school and hour away and has no job, and me as her Bridesmaid or Best Man.

So my mom and I threw her shower with the simple food-sandwhich trays, chips, fruit trays, veggie trays, cake, and soup, pretty simple. Even with 2 weeks notice, people didn’t seem to have a problem attending and she got a lot of gifts (enough to fill the 2 back seats and a trunk). Some people, like our parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles just kind of jokingly said “well don’t expect much for Christmas” or “this is your Christmas present” (but they were kinda serious too) And had about 95% of people attend the wedding. And I know she roughly got around $400-500 from that. 

So people may surprise you. It just may be a “damned if you do and damned if you don’t” kind of thing. People may some an October shower is waaay too early and a November or January shower too close to the holiday.

 I don’t think it is a good idea to do it in October. My BFF is getting married in June and she had her shower in February and people thought it was pretty early. And with all your MOH’s stuff going on it is alot.

IF it was ME, I would choose either 11/25 or 1/19. I think 1/19 is a good idea because you and Fiance have a few days to get the gift settled and put away before having to leave for work.  

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