Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
My side of the bridal party is mostly local (4/5) while FI’s isn’t (1/4 is local). My bachelorette party will be Jan 31st (3 weeks before the wedding), and when I suggested he do his bachelor party the same night, he reminded me of how far away his friends are. He’s right, it’s not fair to expect them to travel so far twice. But, given that our wedding is pretty heavy DIY including ALL of the flowers, which have to be done on Friday and Saturday, I’m less than sure about letting him do it on Thursday or Friday night (wedding is Sunday, NOT Saturday). Scratch that, I’m unsure about Thursday, I HATE the idea of Friday.
I need him to help me with last minute disasters and last minute…..everythings. He’s been a very involved groom for the last year, and I know I’ll need him the last couple of days more than ever. My family can be difficult and he is really amazing at helping me deal with those situations gracefully. I know there will be some of those in the days leading up, with stress levels running high.
What do you bees think? Should I let him do Thursday night and try to deal with the projects and last minute dramas alone?
If YOU had a really spread out bridal party, what did you do about this? Help!
Post # 2
I see where you are coming from but I would let him have his day. Just have him step it up a notch the next two days. He still will have Friday and Saturday to help.
Post # 3
FI had a camping bachelor weekend trip. Some of the people were from out of our area. He wanted to make sure they were camping in reasonable weather since it gets VERY cold in the winter where we live. He also wanted to make sure the guy who lived the farthest would be able to attend, so he sort of scheduled around him.
For your FI, since his party is only one night, I could see him wanting to do it closer to the wedding to save on the travel. As long as he will be available all the other times that week before the wedding (not hungover the next morning), it could be ok. On the other hand, if his family is coming from out of town for the wedding, they might also wish to see him during that pre-wedding time.
Post # 4
We both had our parties 2 nights before our wedding with no disasters.
Post # 5
Do what is convenient for you, our bachelor parties were one week before and it was very hectic.
I say pick a date that is convenient for DH and the groomsmen, and maybe consider picking a place that is as convenient as possible to most of them even if FI has to travel. Granted some of them may not be able to come, but you will need those last few days to prep!