When to host bachelorette party?

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

From what I gathered, in the USA it is the Maid/Matron of Honor who plans the bachelorette according to what the majority of guests can manage. A prior discussion with the bridal party would allow to set a date and if the bride can make it, then it moves on from there.

Post # 4
759 posts
Busy bee

If people are travelling, depending on how far, I’d give dates a couple months before the wedding. People probably aren’t going to travel back to back weekends and asking for people to take ANOTHER day off for like a thursday party might be tough. Also considering the bride may be busy/stressed and not able to wine taste for a day, you know?

Post # 5
1639 posts
Bumble bee

We did a Doodle containing the week before the wedding and each weekend up to 4.5 months before the wedding and the dates with the most votes won. 

Post # 7
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Anywhere from 1 week-3 months before the wedding. Mine is 7 weeks before my wedding because my Maid/Matron of Honor wanted it to be warm enough for where we’re going and that’s the weekend everyone agreed on.

Post # 8
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

My bachelorette party was 5 weeks before the wedding. Just pick a time that works for the most people.

Post # 9
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

For me, I knew I wanted a crazy all out Vegas trip, so we picked like 6-8 weeks before the wedding. After watching the Hangover so many times, we knew we needed time for all sunburns, bruises and/or other wounds (and real hangovers) to heal! I am super clumsy even when sober, so knowing high heels and liquor would be involved meant I could end up getting hurt. No one did ger hurt, but I didn’t want anything like a pulled tooth or tattoo ruining my wedding like the movie! 

Also as others have said, if people are traveling both to the bach and the wedding, it may be good to give them a month in between so they aren’t requesting too much time off work or traveling too much in one month. Sometimes people handle the travel issue by doing the weekend of (say Thurs or Fri night for a Sat wedding) but I say that is pushing it too close. Even with a low key wine or brewery night, you have no idea what can happen and don’t want your bridesmaids nursing hangovers at your wedding. 

Post # 10
2635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

If you have some out of town people, I would see what they think.  It would probably be easiest if you had it right before the wedding, or on the same weekend as the shower (if they want to go to that too).

Mine was laid back, and didn’t have any out of town people, so it was 3 weeks before the wedding.  I liked that it was close to the wedding, but not so close that it was stressful.

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