Post # 1
I can’t find anywhere any mention of when the bride is supposed to lift her blusher. In the book, "The New Jewish Wedding," the author mentions lifting the veil to drink from the kiddush cup. At this point is the blusher lifted up and back, or is it just lifted enough to drink and the veil remains put throughout the ceremony?
I guess my question is, When do I get to remove my blusher?! My family is mostly non-observant so they are no help :).
We are having a reform Jewish wedding in a museum.
Post # 3
Hm, from what I’ve seen Jewish specific the veil is lifted just enough to get the cup under and drink.
More generally, I’ve come across two schools of thought:
The first is that the father lifts the veil when he agrees to give the bride away.
The second is that the new husband lifts the veil with "You may now kiss the bride." This is the more traditional version.
We’re going with the second because my Fiance is excited to lift the veil 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks, HistoryBride. We’re not doing the "you may now kiss the bride." I’m thinking maybe I’ll have him lift it right when I get to the chuppah.
Post # 5
There is no real "giving the bride away" in Jewish weddings. My rabbi recommended either lifting the veil before drinking from the first cup of wine or right at the end between smashing the glass and the first kiss. We did the latter. It’s also nice in the video and pictures that way.
Post # 6
Actually…my understanding is that the veil isn’t raised ceremonially. It’s lowered. Remember that a Jewish Wedding is a 3 parter. The Veiling Ceremony comes first. The Bridegroom "verifies" that the bride is his bride and then lowers the veil…..
Us…we’re Reformed Jews…no lowering ceremony…in fact my daughter’s going with a birdcage veil…hardly a veil veil.
Post # 7
Great question! I’ve been wondering about this too.
I plan on having both of my parents walk me down the aisle and I was kind of hoping to lift the veil right when I go under the chuppah but I’m not sure if that’s proper or not. I just don’t want something in front of my face the whole time… I feel like it will bug me.
What is the correct way for a reform wedding?
Post # 8
I am very clear on this now. My Rabbi said it was not even necessary that I wear a veil. I MUST participate in a bedekken but that is a separate ceremony and does not necessarily need to be carried into the wedding ceremony.
So it is your choice. Mine is to have my father lift it just before reaching the bimah. Hope this helps