(Closed) when to lift the veil?

posted 10 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hm, from what I’ve seen Jewish specific the veil is lifted just enough to get the cup under and drink.

 More generally, I’ve come across two schools of thought: 

The first is that the father lifts the veil when he agrees to give the bride away. 

The second is that the new husband lifts the veil with "You may now kiss the bride." This is the more traditional version.

We’re going with the second because my Fiance is excited to lift the veil 🙂 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

There is no real "giving the bride away" in Jewish weddings.  My rabbi recommended either lifting the veil before drinking from the first cup of wine or right at the end between smashing the glass and the first kiss.  We did the latter.  It’s also nice in the video and pictures that way.

Post # 6
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Actually…my understanding is that the veil isn’t raised ceremonially.  It’s lowered.  Remember that a Jewish Wedding is a 3 parter.  The Veiling Ceremony comes first.  The Bridegroom "verifies" that the bride is his bride and then lowers the veil…..

Us…we’re Reformed Jews…no lowering ceremony…in fact my daughter’s going with a birdcage veil…hardly a veil veil.  

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Great question! I’ve been wondering about this too.

I plan on having both of my parents walk me down the aisle and I was kind of hoping to lift the veil right when I go under the chuppah but I’m not sure if that’s proper or not. I just don’t want something in front of my face the whole time… I feel like it will bug me. 

What is the correct way for a reform wedding? 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I am very clear on this now.  My Rabbi said it was not even necessary that I wear a veil.  I MUST participate in a bedekken but that is a separate ceremony and does not necessarily need to be carried into the wedding ceremony.

So it is your choice.  Mine is to have my father lift it just before reaching the bimah.  Hope this helps

 

 

 

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