(Closed) When to mention the registry? STDs or Invites?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Neither. The only time I would consider it acceptable to include registry info is with a shower invitation. Even then, some people would disagree with me.

I would nix the cards & either mention it on your webpage, or not mention it at all.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

we put the registry on our wedding website and included our website on our Save the Date letter and on the little tag we had on our invitations we made

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

include website on  save-the-dates and on your website list registry.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’s in bad taste to put any information regarding the registry on a save the date or invitation. It’s meant for the showers, so I would use it then. Otherwise, like other have said, just put the information on your website and include the website info on your save the date or invite.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

to those who you are concern with, for example gandmas, send a mini card that shows where your registered.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would say Save the Dates is least inappropriate. A lot of people will still see it as a faux pas, but that’s not as bad as sending them in the invitation IMO if you feel like you HAVE to send them out in one of the two. Most guests function just fine if you include them in the shower invites only though. I’m from a huge extended family and have been to about 20 weddings in my lifetime. All of them included the cards in the shower invites only if they were included at all. I think a lot of people who are older or less tech savvy are still pretty good at calling to get info about registries by word of mouth.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d say neither. Grandmas etc can find out where you’re registered through family. I think it’s extremely rude to include this information in any sort of invite. People will find out where you’re registered or give you cash or gift cards.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Sparkle Pony:  I would think grandmas in particular would be sensitive to traditional etiquette & wouldn’t appreciate them in Save-The-Date Cards or invitations. But maybe that’s just in my family. My grandma would ask my mom for info, or be alright with it in a shower invite. How does your family usually do things?

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

As some pps indicated, registry information may be placed on your wedding website if you wish and also may be shared by word of mouth through close family members and friends if guests contact them to inquire about your registries. You really should not include registry cards with any of your wedding correspondence.

Regarding your older relatves who do not have internet access, they likely will ask another close family member about this information if they are interested in knowing it.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Eh, it’s totally a reigonal thing. Where I live, people get annoyed if it’s NOT in the invite. So I vote put it in the invite, not the STD. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Another vote for neither. The older relatives who can’t figure out the internet are also the ones who will know registry info should be spread via word of mouth. They’ll call your mom or someone and ask. Those info cards are for your shower invites only.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Apparently Emily Post expects people to be psychic.

We put ours on our website, and my SIL put it in the shower invites.

With the incredibly long distances many of us have between family and friends these days (I grew up in Dallas, went to college in Houston, grad school in Boston, and now live in CA, to give you some idea) I think it’s insane that people expect this info to be shared by word of mouth. HOW? No, seriously. How is my family who have never met any of my grad school friends or any of my husbands friends abroad supposed to casually inform them of our registry info?

Ahh, I know. Through Psychic powers.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@crayfish:  Actually, I’m almost certain Emily Post advocates information being on shower invites. I’m going to look it up 🙂

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