Post # 1
when is the right time? I have my Maid/Matron of Honor in Denver and a close friend in CA and want to give ppl heads up. I do not think Maid/Matron of Honor will throw me one since she travels alot and prob. wont be able to a month or so before the wedding. So could I schedule my own B party? LOL I dont know!
Post # 3
typically, pre-wedding parties are not thrown or hosted by the bride. You’ve got the wedding to plan, and because Showers especially are primarily gift-centered, it looks tacky to throw your own.
do what you want, but i think the bridal shower usually happens within 2-3 months before the wedding, and the bachelorette is often in the same time frame. Really, it’s whevener works for people.
in your case you’re dealing with out of town ‘maids, so maybe your Bachelorette could be a few days before the wedding? and do you maybe have an Aunt or other female relative closer to you that could throw you a shower?
on a personal note, I just had my shower this past weekend, and I now join the ranks of women who concur that most showers suck. just do a search on here and you’ll find lots of stories. so if you don’t have one, don’t be upset. but I wouldn’t miss out on a bachelorette party with my girls! we just confirmed my date, Fri July 20. i’m excited!!
Post # 4
@cherryblossomlove: Oh no, no, no. Showers are gifts. Someone offers it to you. Planning your own could come across wrong. Just let them figure it out. :]
ETA: I don’t think throwing your own Bach Party would be so bad though. You could even come up with ideas and talk it over with the girls and let them handle that as well. Totally up to you. Hope you get it figured out!
Post # 5
@ArmyWife8806: Oh ya I know that the shower should not be thrown by me lol I guess I dont care about the shower… the b party I kinda do. Maybe around my bday? Sept 22 is my bday:)
A cpl days before would not work bc I have to work and Fiance will be in school plus our wedding is on a Thurs.
Post # 6
@cherryblossomlove: I honestly don’t see any harm in getting the plans rolling for your bach. party. It wouldn’t be a huge surprise obviously because you’re planning it but I don’t think they ever are. :-p Bach. party/B-day bash gives you all the more reason to party! :]
Post # 7
@cherryblossomlove: My sister planned my bridal shower and it was amazing! She is also planning my bachelorette. All I knew about my bridal shower was the date. The bride does not typically plan the bridal or bachelorette party. You don’t want to have to stress over that. Let your maid of honor, family, and friends take care of it 🙂
Post # 8
I had a lingerie shower 2 months before, my bridal shower 1 month before, and bachelorette party 1 week before 🙂 Worked out perfectly!!!
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I planned my own bachelorette party, basically, and my friends threw in some surprises once the bones were in place for the weekend. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. My mom and my cousin planned my shower, but basically consulted me on every decision whether I wanted to weigh in or not, and it was fine! Both parties were in April before my June wedding.