(Closed) When to pull the trigger on getting a different dress

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
2634 posts
Sugar bee

Just remember it is going to look 10x better once it’s fitted properly.


Is a new dress in your budget??  If not, then I’d urge you to try to remember why you liked/loved it in the first place.  If so then I guess you could start looking now.


Is going to the store and trying on a better fitting dress (the sample) again an option?

Post # 4
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Do you have pictures of the dress or you in the dress?  Do you simply not like how the sample looked on you the second time around b/c they didn’t clamp it as tight?  Because as SanDiegoAli said it will look different (and better) once it’s in your size. 

Maybe try it on again and ask them to clamp it tighter so you can get a better look.  If you end up still not liking the dress when it comes in you will most likely have to buy a sample dress if you are only a month away from your wedding.  I ended up purchasing my second dress that way and had no regrets and was able to get it fitted with time to spare. 

By The Way…I grew up in Loudonville!  Are you getting married in the Capital District? 

Post # 5
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I bought a second dress and it was a super hard decision for me.  I didn’t want to be known as the girl with two wedding dresses.  I bought my first dress at a vintage couture store while on vacation in Toronto so I had to buy it quickly since I was only in Toronto for 2 days. Had I not been on that time line I probably would have never bought it.  I feel in love with the idea of the dress not the real dress.  So about 2 months ago I came to terms with the fact that I hated the dress and the fact that almost cried everytime I tried it on.  I want to feel pretty and fabulous on my wedding day and I knew that I wasn’t going to feel that way with my first dress.  I completely understand what you are going through.  For me I have decided to wear my first dress to the ceremony and the second one to the reception.  But I am so in love with my second dress that might change :).



Post # 8
690 posts
Busy bee

First off – beautiful dress!

Second, I can definitely relate to what you are saying!  I purchased my dress without taking pictures, but having tried it on.  The first consultant used several clips to make the too-big sample fit me nicely. 

After buying, they let me come back and take photos of me in the dress.  This time the consultant put one little clip at the very bottom that kept on falling off.  In all the photos I have HORRIBLE posture, as I’m trying to stop my dress from literally falling down!  I have NO boobs (since its too big and that area, and nothing is holding them up) and it makes my waist/hips look a bit larger than they are since its not fitted in those areas.  Bottom line – it doesn’t look like the “WOW!” vision I saw in the mirror the first time.

While this made me have a few doubts when I first saw the photos, I quickly realized what the problem was.  I’m convinced that it will look 100x better once its actually fitted to me! 

I’m sure this is your problem as well.  Its a beautiful dress, and you fell in love with how it looked PROPERLY fitted.  Once you’re done having it altered, I’m sure you will feel the same way again 🙂  Good luck!

Post # 9
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

as a “bought a new dress” bride, i’m pretty sympathetic to what you are going through.  it’s a bad feeling!  i think that your dress is BEAUTIFUL!!!  i also know that nothing any of us say can change how you are feeling about it.  Could you go back and try it on again one more time, be firm and tell them to pull it super tight so you can see what it’ll look like on you? if you are still unsure, i say go shopping.  it’ll either convince you that your dress is the right one, or you’ll find one and say, ahhh, so much better.  that’s what happened to me.  if it makes you feel any better, i bought my new dress (not a sample, it was rush ordered though) on 3/26 for my 7/31 wedding and it’ll be here by 6/5.  so you still have some time.  

i would like to say again though, that i think your current dress is gorgeous.

Post # 10
7 posts

your dress is amazing….I can see how it wouldn’t look good if it’s not nice and fitted though. I’m sure it being loose the second time you tried it on is the trouble. I think everything will be fine once you have your dress fitted properly to your body!

Post # 11
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Your dress is lovely. That being said, a dress can be pretty without being the dress for you and your wedding. I bought a dress on an impulse and am now looking for one I actually want to wear.

I agree with marlie- try your dress on pinned properly (remember the proportions will be different on a smaller sized gown) and if you don’t love it try on other dresses.

Good luck with whichever dress you decide on!

Post # 13
3613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have 7 weeks before my wedding, dress arrived last week, still not fitting properly because they ordered it 2 sizes too big apparantly and the dress has such heavy beading it is very difficult to alter, and I hate the way I look in it.  There’s still a chance that alterations may make the dress perfect but I’m not too hopeful. I always had doubts that it wasn’t the right dress for me so I kept looking, but I didn’t pull the trigger and bought a backup dress. I WISH I had because now there just isn’t enough time. Everyone tells you “don’t worry it’ll be wonderful when it’s in your size” but sometimes it just doesn’t work out that way. Now I’m a worst case scenario and your dress looks like a much easier dress to work with should you need alterations. I’m just putting it out there that if you don’t love it now, you may never love it.

Post # 16
571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I had the same problem, so I took my dress after losing weight and tried to see what it would look like altered more to fit me.  I still wasn’t in love and ended up finding another one by accident in the alteration store!  So I sold the original and bought the new one that I absolutely drop dead loved!  It’s such a tough decision for many brides!

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