(Closed) When to send destination wedding invites??

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Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

normal is 6-8 weeks in advance, so i would push them up to 10 weeks in advance since you have so many oot. right now is way too early though…people will forget and probably still wouldn’t rsvp until a month before.

if you need numbers for your diy projects, you would have to move your rsvp date up. many people wait until the deadline to make sure their plans won’t change (plus you’ll have to make calls after the deadline for whoever doesn’t respond).

i would just do my diy projects based on 75% of the number of invited guests, then you can add more in the month before the wedding.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I sent mine out 4 months early.  We got engaged with 5 months to go, and I didn’t want to do Save-The-Date Cards and then immediately send out invitations, so I just sent them all early.  The downside is that I’m worried that people will forget to RSVP.  If you already did STD’s, but might want to limit them to one month to get the RSVPs back so that they get right on it and don’t forget.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m less than 4 months out as well and having a destination wedding where everyone is traveling. I’m sending mine the weekend of Feb 19. My RSVP date is April 7 though because I owe final counts 30 days out to some vendors, which gave me 2 weeks of cushion to chase down non-responders.

My guests have 6 weeks to respond. I feel like everyone who received the STD already has their mind made up on whether or not their coming and many have already started making arrangements to be there, so I don’t think it will come as a surprise to anyone.

Hope that helps!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think its too early. People probably won’t return them quickly or anything but I know my family is asking when I’m sending out the invites. A lot of them are waiting on actually getting them before they make their travel plans which worries me. I’ll be sending mine out 3-4 months in advance but I didn’t do save the dates.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@jenroh1984: I say do whatever you want! I don’t think there is any “rule” that you have to live by with invitations, so if it would make you feel better to send them now so that you start getting a better idea of people, then go for it. Nobody will gasp and think you’re sending them too early. Sounds like your guests will appreciate it since they are waiting on them to make arrangements for travel.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Send them out as soon as you can.  While you sent a Save the Date, it really isn’t all that official (people cancel weddings everyday, some people with awful manners send Save the Dates and then decide against inviting people), some people don’t book tickets until they receive the actual invitation. 

For you, the invitation isn’t merely a formality, but something to tell you guests to please book your tickets because you are getting married far away, which is expensive for them. It’s more considerate to send them sooner rather than later.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@jenroh1984: I’m sending mine out next week! 🙂 I want to get them sent so I can mark that off the list!!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Send them! We sent ours last week so about 3 months in advance (we did not do Save-The-Date Cards, and 90% of our guests are coming from OOT) with our RSVP due April 1.  So that gives everyone ample time to make travel plans.  I was happy to cross that off the list and now people have stopped bugging us about “where is the invitation?  what hotel should we stay at?”  etc

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I just received an invite (pretty sure it was an invite and not an STD, because it was full pocketfold with RSVP card) for a September Destination Wedding yesterday.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@SapphireSun: Did it make you mad or did you think it was weird? Were you expecting it? Like the 20 questions? I’m imagining my guests getting my desty wedding invites and wondering what they’ll think of it being early 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@MrsPinkPeony: Well, it’s my husband’s sister, so we’ve known about the wedding for a while… didn’t really matter to us when we actually got the formal invite. 

But, I definitely wondered what other guests would think about getting an invite so early.  But, I guess if she wasn’t going to do a save the date, you want to make sure people know somehow.

She also had an RSVP date that’s 4 months before the wedding.  That’s the part that I thought people would have a lot more trouble with… but I guess if you’re planning to go to Hawaii, you’d know by June…?

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My wedding is destination for 75% of the guests.  We are mailing ours out this week, RSVP date of April 1st and our wedding is May 13th.  We have found the same thing with most people waiting to get the invite to make travel plans.  Good luck!

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