(Closed) When to send invitations?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2610 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I would send invites a little earlier if you feel like them arriving at Christmas isn’t the best timing. I’ve always heard three months is around when you should send them, so you should be fine there.

As for announcing the wedding(s), I would wait until after your wedding and then send out a cute wedding announcement. If you feel it’s appropriate to mention all three weddings maybe you can get a cute photo card announcement, put a picture of each couple on it announcing “We’re all Married!”. I think that could be a fun piece of mail to receive. But I’d rather find out after that you’ve gotten married not before when I’m not invited.

Post # 4
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Totally agree with what @Ms_Purple: has said above.

Send your Invites sooner than later… and don’t mention Wedding Plans in your Christmas Cards.  (Infact I wouldn’t even mention the Engagement … I’d be prone this year to skip any “Newsy Seasonal Letters” to those who won’t be invited)

And Wedding Announcements are the way to go for after the Wedding … they can be the “traditional kind” printed on card stock (similar to a W-Invite) OR they can be a cute Photo Card (similar to a W-TY Card).  The choice is yours.

Hope this helps,


Post # 5
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Our date is February 14th and I just recently sent invitations. Same reason – I don’t want the invites or the RSVPs to get stuck in Christmas mail season. The overwhelming majority of out guest list is local, so I don’t see why they couldn’t give us an RSVP that early. You either want to come or not, there’s no travel arrangements to make or babysitting to arrange (kids are invited). They also pretty much exclusively work normal hour jobs during the week. 

Now… that’s my situation. Are you and your guests similar? If so, go ahead and mail them earlier. The worst that can happen is you have to track people down for RSVPs, which happens to everyone anyway. 

Post # 6
6531 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@OkieHeart:  I would send it a little early because of the holiday season. I would send them out mid Nov.

Post # 7
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@OkieHeart:  Nothing wrong with sending them out a little early.  Maybe postmark them the week after Thanksgiving so they arrive before the Christmas cards?

Post # 8
16 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Okieheart – I would try maybe the week before Thanksgiving? It is early but better safe than sorry and then you have to try to track down RSVP’s later.


My wedding is January 4th and I am sending them out Oct. 28th because lately it seems mail around where I am is getting everywhere super late (like 3 weeks in-state). Good luck! 🙂

Post # 9
910 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would send them right after Thanksgiving.


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