(Closed) When to send invitations, if you are not sending Save the Dates?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Invitation timeline etiquette predates the trend of save the dates… So still 6-8weeks. 

If you’re worried about your out of town guests, you can always call and give them a heads up of the date.

Post # 3
2168 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

In the UK we send them 3-4 months out, Save the Dates or not! 

My venue, for example, needs final numbers 6 weeks out. Talk to your venue about when they need numbers by and go from there 🙂


Post # 4
881 posts
Busy bee

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sweetchik:  Invitation timelines are not dependant on if you sent STDs or not. 

I would take your deadline for your caterer, add a week, and make that date your RSVP deadline. Then send out your invitations 4-5 weeks in advance of that.

Post # 5
5136 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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sweetchik:  i would’t send them out any earlier than 8 weeks. if you are not doing STDs word of mouth will get the wedding date around

Post # 6
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

We didn’t do STDs.  Told family and friends the wedding date by word of mouth and then sent the invites out 2 months before.  I think 12 weeks is too far out.  

Post # 7
3527 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

The earlier the better. I never got this 6-8 weeks BS. I’m a nurse, my schedule is made in 6 week blocks and posted 2 weeks before the block starts…. so getting an invite 6-8 weeks before the wedding date would royally suck as I need to request time off before it’s posted, ESPECIALLY if I needed to travel. Not to mention budget for this. So the earlier the better. Like 3 months at least. If I was local and the wedding was on a weekend off (I work every other weekend) then shorter notice would be okish but I still dont like it. If it’s on a work weekend…. see above. 

Our wedding is July 7, 2017. 2/3 of our guest list are Out of Town. We will be sending invites out in like March 7th with an April 7th RSVP date. I want to know 3 months in advance who is coming and who is not and let my venue (which I’m still looking for) know, somenplaces I’ve looked at need like a 2 months notice.And if we invite 80 and only 60 reply… and most venues i’m lookkng at have a 75 people minimum.. I have enough time to do a 2nd round of invites that I cant do right away because I cant invite 100 and have all of the RSVP yes, budget, we can only aroud 75-80 with tese crazy prices.  So yeah.

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