Post # 1
I just had a conversation with a printer who said if you send out invites too far (I wanted to do mine 10-12 weeks out) and put a too early RSVP date (I wanted to do a month prior), that people wouldn’t send them in.
The gap between receiving the invite and needing to respond were too far apart, so people tend to not fill out the RSVP card.
So, she encouraged mailing the invite 6-8 weeks out and having the RSVP date 2 weeks prior.
Personally, I’d rather put something on my calendar in advance…. please tell me she’s wrong and I’m ok with the original timeframe.
Post # 3
We had our RSVP date a month before the wedding and sent them out about 10 weeks before the wedding. We didn’t have problems with people not sending them back.
Post # 4
I sent my invitations out 3 months before the wedding date, with a deadline of about 6 weeks before the wedding date. The RSVP date is May 31, and we have received about 75% of our responses so far. So I don’t think you should listen to the printer. Everything is working out just fine for us (and if some people don’t send them in, we have extra time to contact them).
Nobody has commented that they thought the invitations were sent early or the RSVP date was too early.
Post # 5
I’m sending invites 2 months out and RSVP date is one month out. I want to give people time to make travel arrangements even thought I’ve sent STD cards. I know how last minute some people are in the family…
Post # 6
We sent ours 8 weeks before the wedding and had the RSVP date 4 weeks before the wedding. We needed a final count for the venue 2 weeks before the wedding.. we need all of those extra 2 weeks to track down people who didn’t send in their RSVPs. If I received an invite 12 weeks before the wedding I probably would set it aside and then forget about it.. unless I was absolutely positive I was attending (close family wedding or I was in the wedding party)
Post # 7
Yeah, I agree if it is too early I would forget about it and set the RSVP card aside. We are sending ours out 8 weeks before (I have heard you should do 6-8 wks) because we have almost our entire guest list coming from out of town. My RSVP date is 2 weeks before.
Post # 8
We are sending ours out 8 weeks before, with an rsvp date 3 weeks before…since you get married day after us. We are tentatively planning on having our invites sent out no later than August 6th, with an rsvp date of Sept 10th.
Post # 9
Thanks! That’s helpful. I think I’m going to go with sending at 10 weeks and request back at 4. I know that’s still probably the wider limits of the norm… but I’m hoping to get away with it! 🙂