Post # 1
I mailed out my A list on Dec 28th. I have gotten back 7 no’s so far. MY RSVP deadline is Feb 7th. I am pretty sure most of the people on my B list aren’t going to come because they are out of state. Should I go ahead and send out their invites because I think if the RSVP date is less then a month it is clear they are on a B list.
Post # 3
My friend did an A and B list, whenever she got a no back she sent out another invite.
Post # 4
whenever you get a no, send out an invite.
Post # 5
I would send out as many B list invites as possible now. I agree that if you wait much longer it will be clear you have a B list.
Post # 6
Send B’s as you get “NO” responses.
If you are very brave and don’t believe they will attend, you can certainly send. I know timing is of the issue but there’s always the possibility they could show up. Only you know. You will also surely receive a few more No’s from your A list.
Post # 7
Thanks! I will def get a few of the B listers out tomorrow. If I have other people that say no from this point on should I make a Different RSVP card for other people. I mean my wedding isn’t until march 27th so I still have time to get my RSVP’s back. I just wanted to make sure I had time to chase down the missing people.
So should I make a second RSVP Card? I wont be able to make it the same as the one I did for everyone else though.
Post # 8
I would make a second RSVP card if you think the date on the first one is too soon…ya know, just so they don’t realize they’re on the B-list!
Post # 9
The key to having a B list is to send invitations in groups. People talk about getting wedding invites, so you want to send invites to groups of people at a time. (ex. all the second cousins, all the college friends etc) so that people dont feel like they got forgotten about.
Post # 10
Just had to write. I am also getting married on march 27th. I am not only through the B list but scrambling onto the C list.
For the B list, I quickly sent out Save The Date cards, then the invitation. When questioned about this, simply explained to person that I recently found out the Save The Date cards which were origionally e-mailed were either actually not delivered or the people could not open the attachment so they were re-sent via snail mail. This is actualy the truth so the B listers do not realize they are B listers and we even got a YES response to an out of towner relative.
Post # 11
This thread is very helpful! I don’t know why, but it had never occurred to me to just send out B-list invites as you recieve the other no’s…genius!
Post # 12
@mrs ranunculus: Me too! This is the best idea ever!