(Closed) When to send out Save-the-Date Cards?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: What should I do?

    Make a Facebook post

    Send out 1.5 years before (later this year)

    Send out 1 year before

    Send out 6-12 months before


  • Post # 2
    1199 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I was married Memorial Day Weekend (both a popular wedding weekend as well as a weekend people are busy). I sent my STDs out 9 months in advanced. However, our close friends and family already knew of our date months prior to that just through casual conversation.

    Post # 3
    7989 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Why does it matter if your co-worker also gets married on that day? You telling people isn’t going to stop people from picking that day, and they will also probably pick the wedding they want to go to most – not the one they got an STD to first. 

    I would just send them out 1 year prior. So much can happen in 2 years, so just worry about your own planning and leave everyone else out of it. If people ask if you’ve picked a day I think its fine to say but making a facebook post or sending out this year just seems OTT.

    Post # 4
    177 posts
    Blushing bee

    Close family and friends knew the date ahead of time.  We sent out save the dates 8 months in advance and we had a destination wedding.  

    Post # 5
    4890 posts
    Honey bee

    Honestly, I don’t see any reason to send them.out any earlier than usual (9 -12 months in advance maximum).  I really don’t see that date being any more popular than any other summer Saturday.  Maybe I’m just not tuned in to what is wild and wacky that people seem to get a hoot out of, but I’m not even sure that date really registers as anything all that special that it warrants sending out save the dates nearly two years in advance.  I could maybe see people getting a kick out of 10/10/20 , but also not two years in advance.

    Post # 6
    5250 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I think 2 years is way too early to send out save the dates. You can let the people you are close to know verbally that you have booked a date, anything else is overkill in my opinion.

    Post # 7
    6939 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I would think all your VIPS would know the date ahead of getting a Save the Date anyway, no?

    Honestly, if I got a STD 2 years in advance…I’d probably forget all about the wedding by the time you even got around to the invitation stage. 2 years is too early to plan anything from a guest’s perspective (can’t book a hotel room, can’t request time off work, can’t book a flight). All a guest could do was literally write it in their calendar and that doesn’t necessarily mean it would still take priority over anything else on that day. Like say I get the STD for a casual friend’s wedding 2 years in advance, but then 1 year or so later I get another STD for the same date for a good friend or a family member. I’m obviously going to the second one, even though that STD came later. 

    ETA: Also don’t make a Facebook post unless you’re planning on inviting every single one of your FB friends to your wedding. 

    Post # 8
    1350 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    In terms of sending save the dates because it’s a popular wedding date- I would still go to the wedding of the person I am closest with not the first one that got to my mailbox. 

    I think the normal 8-12 months is fine and just letting the must haves at the wedding know the date.

    Post # 10
    3350 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

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    jayquellen :  send them out under a year ahead of time. people WILL confuse the year of your wedding if you send them out earlier. i promise you.

    as for your concerns about other weddings being booked…people don’t typically make wedding choices about whose STD/invite came first. they will go to the wedding of whoever they are closer to. if they learn about your wedding 2 years in advance, that’s not going to stop them from going to their cousin’s/best friend’s/sister’s wedding because they got that STD one year later. 

    Post # 11
    6939 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

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    catskillsinjune :  “send them out under a year ahead of time. people WILL confuse the year of your wedding if you send them out earlier. i promise you.”

    That’s a good point. If I got a STD now for June, I’d just assume it was for June 2019. I might not even notice the year! 

    Post # 12
    282 posts
    Helper bee

    I would definitely start telling family and close friends the date, especially with his cousin thinking of doing her wedding so close in date. I would let her know for sure! She may not want your weddings to be so close together. Send STDs a year out.

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