Post # 1
My fiance & I don’t have a date set yet, and this is because his entire family lives in Australia. I’m from the US, and we will be getting married here. However, it’s really important to us both that some of his family members make it, so we want to be sure to give them PLENTY of notice and time to save money to come over, which is why we haven’t picked a date yet.
We’re thinking sometime in 2014, possibly April/May? Which is a bit less than 2 years from now, but I’m assuming we won’t have a date set/venue booked before December of this year, which would give people about a year and 4-5 months….?
When did you send out your STDs? How much notice should we give people when the wedding trip for them will entail lots of saving/booking vacation time off work? And do you send out STDs before you have a venue booked? I’m not sure how this all works!
Post # 3
Or, if a year + is too early to send STDs, should we send out an email or something to his close family/friends in Australia to let them know we’re getting married in the US, and then send official STDs out 6-9 months before (that’s the guideline I’ve seen)? I just really want to give people enough notice because it’s such a huuuuuuuge trip, but I don’t want it to be so early that they forget!
Post # 4
I would send an email or something to his close family/friends in Australia now, telling them you plan to get married in the US and the approximate timing. I think that’s enough for this far out, they’ll have plenty of time to think about if they can make the trip. Then, after you’ve booked a venue, you can send out the STDs (I would probably send them 6 months to a year in advance).
We aren’t having people travel as far as you for ours, but most of our friends/family live on the east coast, and we’re getting married in California, so it’s about a 5 hour flight for most. Most of our close family and friends are aware of the location/date because it’s come up in conversation, but we’re also working on sending out STDs about 9-10 months in advance (I probably would have send them even a couple months earlier but it took us longer than expected to find and book a venue!)
Post # 5
I second the idea of emailing people who will be traveling. Honestly, I don’t think many people have calendars that go as far ahead as 2014, so it’s really hard to actually remember to plan to attend a wedding that far out. I agree with PP that you should mail out the STDs 6 months to a year in advance.
Post # 6
Tell people now an approximate time like fall 2014 or something like that and send out the STD about 12 months in advance. I was surprised at how many people said they were comming and ended up not at the last minute for financial reason. our wedding is a 14 hour drive from most of our 95% of our family members and friends. Give people as much time as possible and then hopefully you can give them lots of time with a firm date and location so people can book seat sales and things like that as they come up.
Post # 7
STDs have the date on them, so if you don’t know your date then I would hold off.
I’ve never heard of ones being maild when you don’t know a specific date (as in the venue is booked, there’s your date)
But the etiquette is 9-12 months in advance of the wedding date for save the dates.
We sent ours out 11 months in advance for a Jackson Hole wedding with 100% Out of Town guests, and you will not believe how many things have changed in just 10 months.
When you do get a date/venue booked, I’d suggest making a free wedding website with more details.
Post # 8
HI, we sent out 12 months before, I think any earlier might seem a bit odd and people might get confused about the year. We just put city and country on ours as we knew we wanted to get married in a certain location and we had heaps of choice for venues so we did not put venue on save the dates. We will put it on our invitations and we have put it on our website, we are telling our guests the website URL this month so 10 months out.
Post # 9
To clarify, we sent out save the dates 12 months ahead, I think that is quite usual if guests are having to travel far. Mine will ge going to Thailand from UK, US, Canada, NZ, Aus etc so I would say you should sent out 12 months, or even send 13 or 14 months more. You could just put city, state.