Post # 1
I’m just curious, how long before the wedding do people typically send out save the dates? I’ve read 6-8 months is good, but I’m leaning more towards the 8 month mark. Being pretty much paycheck to paycheck ourselves, I want to make sure people will have plenty of time to save up for traveling here, etc. Would it be weird if you (as a guest) received a save the date 8 months before a wedding, even if you were coming in from out of town?
Post # 3
We sent ours out in March (7 months), and getting married in October. I think the 6-8 month mark is good.
Post # 4
We sent ours out at 6 months out. We have out of town guests also.
Post # 5
@PrncssDva: Did you feel that gave your guests plenty of time? I’m struggling with this question now too.
Post # 6
I’m planning on 8-9 months out. I’ve got a lot of time, but if my Out of Town quests are anything like me, they’ll have to book their paid time off well in advance! I know mine’s pretty much set by the 1st week of January which is why I’d like to get the Save the Dates sent around then. My friend who is getting married this October hasn’t sent any yet, but I think that might be waiting a little too long!
Post # 7
@Gemstone: Yes, everyone is just fine with this. I also have sent them a wedding map that I made on weddingmapper.com with hotels, etc around the venue so that they can begin to book their rooms.
@staceynrick: Is your friend even planning on sending Save the Dates? When does she plan on sending invites?
Post # 8
Traditionally speaking, is customary to mail your save the dates four to six months in advance. You certainly want to give your guests adequate notice, but you do not want them to receive a save the date so far in advance that they have time to misplace it, or forget about it. However, as with many traditional rules of etiquette, this is merely a guideline, not a rule set in stone – it is always best to do what you are most comfortable with.
In some cases, it is recommended you mail your save the dates up to a year in advance, such as when your wedding is planned for a holiday weekend, if you are having a destination wedding, or if a lot of your guests will be traveling to your wedding. It sounds to me that you are just being considerate of your guests, so by all means, mail your save the dates eight months in advance if that is what you feel comfortable with. After all, eight months is not that far off from the recommended six.
I actually wrote a blog article about save the date etiquette if you are interested, or if you have any other questions.
Post # 9
@gemstone: I am struggling with it too, which is why I posed the question. I almost feel that 6 months isn’t enough time for people to save up for flights, etc.
@staceynrick: Yea, I’d say she missed the boat on that one!
I had originally thought that we’d send them out around the time that people are able to book their flights online, which would be about 6 months before the wedding. But recently I started to worry that our guests wouldn’t have enough time to save BEFORE that time comes. So, I think we’ll stick with between 7-8 months, just to make it convenient for everyone. Thanks ladies!
Edited to add (you all are fast & snuck in as I was busy typing!):
@LCI: Thanks, I’ll check it out!
@Diva: That’s a good idea about the wedding mapper. We plan to have our wedding website on the save the dates. The website has local hotel & airline info, as well as my email should guests have any questions.
Post # 10
I’m probably going to send mine out around late September, early October since I have plenty of guests coming from around Canada and England but I’m also a paranoid bride and afraid if I wait any longer no one will be able to get here.
Post # 11
@cbcs520: Ok, sounds good. I didn’t feel like bothering with a website, so I made the map 🙂
Post # 12
I have struggled with this too. I have guests coming from all over the world, so I may just have to send them in September if they are done by then.