(Closed) When to send out thank you cards

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
13951 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My shower is this weekend, so I’ve been receiving gifts for the last few weeks.  For these ones, I’m waiting until after the shower to send them (they’re already written, just need to seal and stamp them!).  Checks we’ve received along the way, we deposited into one of our bank accounts, because (1) I always get annoyed when people hold my checks for a long time and don’t cash them, and (2) there is a time limit to deposit checks before they become void. I write the thank you card and deposit the checks as they are received.

Since you are receiving gifts now, and your wedding is still 5 months away, I would send thank you cards for gift received now so you don’t forget… plus, the gracious thing to do is to acknowledge and thank gift senders as soon as you get them!

Post # 4
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Start your thank you cards now! Do them as your gifts come in, honestly, that way people won’t be sitting around wondering if you got their gift. I sent a gift for a friend’s wedding back in September and have yet to receive a thank you card. We saw them on NYE and they said that they’re “working on them.” (I was mostly concerned that they actually received the gift, since it was delivered to their home and they don’t live in the nicest neighborhood.)

Post # 5
1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

commenting to come back to   thanks for posting OP   this will be helpful

Post # 6
4437 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

As soon as they come in!  I’m assuming these gifts you’re getting are shower gifts given your wedding date is in June and people deserve TWO different thank you cards for two different gifts given on TWO different dates (shower and wedding)  and anything in between if things come up.

I’m getting married this weekend, 2 people have given us gifts already and their thank you cards are already in the mail!

Post # 7
3696 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, it’s best to send “thank yous” ASAP so that the givers know that the gift was received. Plus, you will be grateful to have some of them already done when you have a ton to do after the wedding!

By The Way: a lot of people are under the mistaken impression that you have a year to write thank yous following the wedding before it crosses into late/rude territory. Not true. Guests have up to a year to send a gift, but thank you notes should *always* be sent promptly upon receiving something.

Post # 8
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Keep track (excel is probably best) and send the thank yous ASAP.

Deposit cheques as you get them and promptly put thank yous in the mail.  For cheques that you are depositing, you could also consider popping off an email that says “Thank-you so much for the gift.  I wanted to let you know that we have deposited it and your thank you is in the mail.”  Not necessarily, but some folks find it helpful knowing when things are cashed.


You will have a million to write after the wedding and any other events.  Writing them now lets your guests know that you did in fact receive their gift and reduces your workload later.  

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