When to send STDs?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
1749 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I am planning to send stds out 6-7 months ahead of time. Then invites maybe 2 ish months ahead. 


If it was a destination or high travel wedding, I’d send the stds out more like 10 ish months ahead. 

And I’ll send to everybody. Never heard of just sending them to out of towers.

Post # 3
42 posts

All guests. 

I did 6-8 months as I had a number of international friends I was inviting and wanted to 1) give them more time 2) make sure they got there in a reasonable amount of time! An STD to Canada took over a month, whereas one to Norway took 3 days 🤷🏻‍♀️

Post # 4
792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

May = Memorial Day and the end of the school year, so people are thinking about their summer vacations. Having a wedding in the same month can create conflict. Send them as soon as you can 🙂


ETA send to all guests. Just because they live near your wedding site doesn’t mean they don’t have other plans 🙂

Post # 6
3349 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We sent ours to all guests 9 months in advance. But we had tons of guests invited from overseas, so I would say even up to 6 months out would be fine if that’s not your situation. Less than 6 months is too short IMO. I would send yours out before the Christmas/holiday rush in December… so next month!

Post # 9
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK

My wedding is in England but half of our guests are from North America. I sent my STDs a year in advance to give people plenty of time to save up and plan.

Post # 10
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

We did 6 months in advance and to my knowledge, none of our guests thought they were sent too late. I wanted to do them 8 months out but…life.

Post # 11
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

My wedding is the end of June and I already sent mine but half of my guests are traveling and it’s the weekend before 4th of July in a popular beach vacation spot. Take into consideration how many guests are traveling, any events taking place near your wedding that might make booking hotels difficult and how expensive it will be if they have to stay overnight 

Post # 12
1263 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I agree with sending out before the holiday card rush- you definitely don’t want them to get caught up in that! I’ve already gotten a save-the-date for a wedding the last weekend in April last week. 

I sent ours right after the card rush in January- so like 9 months before our mid-Oct. wedding. We had about 75% out of town guests but I sent them to everyone. I don’t think there’s as much of a concern about sending them too early as with the actual invites- I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t appreciate an extra few months to plan. The main thing is making sure that you have your guest list finalized by the time you send them out, since anyone who recieves a save-the-date must receive an invitation. If there’s anyone you’re unsure about, I wouldn’t send one, or just hold off until you’re sure. 

Post # 13
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Baltimore, MD

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xraychick01 :  My wedding is also May 4th. We sent our save the dates around Labor Day weekend. All invitees live at least 2 hours away, his family is in the South, with a large portion of them potentially needing airfare.

Post # 14
239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I am sending mine in November for a labor day weekend wedding next year. It’s a holiday weekend, plus we have guests from all over the US, as well as my family in Australia. I figured that plenty of notice wouldn’t hurt in this case.

Post # 15
9524 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i had a 7 month engagement, so i sent STDs out at the 6 month mark.

if you are having a destination wedding or a lot of Out of Town guests, i would say closer to a year. 

STDs arent neccessary, i know many who didn’t even send them.

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