Post # 1
When is the appropriate time to send thank you cards for gifts? Our wedding is May 29th, and in the past few weeks we’ve received a good amount of gifts. My mom said you’re not supposed to open wedding gifts until after the wedding, in theory, and therefore shouldn’t send thank you cards out until afterwards. However, since I am THOROUGHLY enjoying lots of new stuff from Pottery Barn that I’ve been aching to own forever, and I’m even using one of the gifts from our BBB registry for the wedding (the picture frame with a large white matting for guests to give you a note/message, and then you put a wedding photo in it), I think I should go ahead and start mailing.
What is the right thing to do?
Post # 3
I would send out thank you cards as soon as you receive a gift. That way the sender knows you received it and they know you are grateful for the gift.
I know you aren’t supossed to open them, but really I think most people at least unwrap it to see what it is lol. If you receive shower gifts though I would definitely send them right away.
Post # 4
Good question, I don’t know so i’m interested to see what others say. My gut sort of says write out the thank you now but mail it after the wedding.
Post # 5
Absolutely write them now! There is no rule about opening gifts before the wedding, only using them-in case they need to be returned because the wedding is called off. The most correct rule is that for gifts received before the wedding notes should be sent out within 2 weeks. For those received on or after the wedding day, notes should be sent out within a month of returning from the honeymoon.
Post # 6
As soon as you receive them, try to write a thank you card. It will cut down on the amount you have to write after the wedding!
Post # 7
I would send Thank Yous now. If I had sent a gift 2 months before the wedding but didn’t have a thank you by then I would be worried it didn’t get there.
Post # 8
If they sent it before, thank them before…
Post # 9
You can open the gifts now and send thank you notes now. There is no rule saying you have to wait. I rather have someone open my gift and send a thank you right away instead of waiting
Post # 10
Go ahead in send it so they know you got their gift. Plus, it’ll be a few thanks you won’t have to do after the wedding.
Post # 11
I basically agree with everyone that you may as well send them now.
p.s: If I gave you one of those gifts I would be so happy that you are really enjoying them and using them.