Post # 1
so, we sent out our save the dates last week. they basically said the date and then see our wedding website for more info.
our invitations will probably go out next month or so. but anyways – someone went on our website. saw that we were registered at target. bought the gift and had it shipped to us. it arrived today.
do i send a thank you to them now? or wait until after the wedding? i never expected this to happen and am extremely appreciative. i just don’t know the etiquitte on when to thank them!
Post # 3
Same thing happened to me. I went ahead and sent one right away. For one, it’s nice to let the person know that you recieved the gift. It can always be scary sending a gift via mail and not know if it was lost or stolen. So it’s a nice way to let them know you recieved it and it gets 1 thank-you after the wedding done!
Anything that came before the wedding (mail or showers) we sent a thank you right then. Any gifts that came to or after the wedding, we had out within 2 months.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2013 - Fox Hills Golf Club & Banquet Center
I say send it right away — I don’t think you can ever thank someone too early, and then you don’t have to remember to do it later!
Post # 5
I would send it now! Less to do after the wedding!
Post # 6
The more prompt your thank you, the more grateful you will appear.
The gold standard of thank you note timelines is before you go to bed on the night the gift is received.
Post # 7
thanks for the input guys. so, i guess I always envisioned having some fancy thank you card made with our invitations. should I just go out tonight and buy a pack of generic thank yous? do people get as picky about thank you cards as they do the invitation?
Post # 8
@sarg88: idk about “people” but I do know that I only remember 2 thank you cards out of the 9 weddings I’ve gone to & that’s only because they had pictures.
Post # 9
@sarg88: I know a lot of people love the fancy photo thank yous, but the laddies in my mom’s circle frown on them. Why delay being thankful for weeks in order to get the the photos, make the cards, then hand write them out. The cards are pretty, but not worth delaying for a month or two. FWIW, my Fiance has actually said “they waited 3 months to send these so we could have a picture of them? We were there– we knowwhat it looked like!”. I would go to CVS, get some fairly nice cards, and get them in the mail!
Post # 10
thanks for the reassurance! I’ll go buy generic cards tonight and forget the fancy ones with pictures of us!
Post # 11
@sarg88: Granted, my wedding is a few months before yours, but we started receiving a few gifts after the invitations went out and this week have received 2 very sweet cards with gift cards, so last night I sat down and got to writing my thank you’s! I already feel a little lighter knowing that I’ve gotten that taken care of. Go ahead and send them – I think the gift givers will be happy to know that 1. you received their gift and 2. you are truly appreciative of what they gave you.
Post # 12
@sarg88: I send thank you’s as soon as I get something. Less work later on. Also, I’d assume if they sent you a gift so early that it was an engagement gift. We got a lot of engagement gifts after we sent out Save-The-Date Cards because by that time we were registered.
Post # 13
We’re doing postcard thank yous. I simply designed 2 sides of the postcard, printed on 4×6 photo paper, glued the two together, and got inexpensive, custom photo thank you cards. It cost me about $9 for 50 postcards.
Front (although we’ll be using a wedding photo once that happens)
Post # 14
I would send it now, one less to write later on 🙂