(Closed) When to send thank you's

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Same thing happened to me.  I went ahead and sent one right away.  For one, it’s nice to let the person know that you recieved the gift.  It can always be scary sending a gift via mail and not know if it was lost or stolen.  So it’s a nice way to let them know you recieved it and it gets 1 thank-you after the wedding done!

Anything that came before the wedding (mail or showers) we sent a thank you right then.  Any gifts that came to or after the wedding, we had out within 2 months.

Post # 4
16 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Fox Hills Golf Club & Banquet Center

I say send it right away — I don’t think you can ever thank someone too early, and then you don’t have to remember to do it later!

Post # 5
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would send it now! Less to do after the wedding!

Post # 6
3268 posts
Sugar bee

The more prompt your thank you, the more grateful you will appear. 


The gold standard of thank you note timelines is before you go to bed on the night the gift is received.

Post # 8
3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@sarg88:  idk about “people” but I do know that I only remember 2 thank you cards out of the 9 weddings I’ve gone to & that’s only because they had pictures.

Post # 9
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@sarg88:  I know a lot of people love the fancy photo thank yous, but the laddies in my mom’s circle frown on them. Why delay being thankful for weeks in order to get the the photos, make the cards, then hand write them out. The cards are pretty, but not worth delaying for a month or two. FWIW, my Fiance has actually said “they waited 3 months to send these so we could have a  picture of them? We were there– we knowwhat it looked like!”. I would go to CVS, get some fairly nice cards, and get them in the mail!

Post # 11
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@andielovesj:  +1

@sarg88:  Granted, my wedding is a few months before yours, but we started receiving a few gifts after the invitations went out and this week have received 2 very sweet cards with gift cards, so last night I sat down and got to writing my thank you’s!  I already feel a little lighter knowing that I’ve gotten that taken care of.  Go ahead and send them – I think the gift givers will be happy to know that 1. you received their gift and 2. you are truly appreciative of what they gave you. 

Post # 12
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sarg88: I send thank you’s as soon as I get something. Less work later on.  Also, I’d assume if they sent you a gift so early that it was an engagement gift.  We got a lot of engagement gifts after we sent out Save-The-Date Cards because by that time we were registered.  

Post # 13
8442 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We’re doing postcard thank yous.  I simply designed 2 sides of the postcard, printed on 4×6 photo paper, glued the two together, and got inexpensive, custom photo thank you cards.  It cost me about $9 for 50 postcards.

Front (although we’ll be using a wedding photo once that happens)



Post # 14
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would send it now, one less to write later on 🙂

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