When to send thank-yous for pre-wedding gifts?

posted 6 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
6580 posts
Bee Keeper

ASAP! Any gifts you get, send out the card asap. Maybe make a list so you know who you’ve sent ones to already. Also, less work after the wedding lol. 

Post # 3
921 posts
Busy bee

As soon as you receive them! 

Post # 5
272 posts
Helper bee

Agreed-  thank you note as soon as a gift is received!  A spreadsheet with names, addresses, gift and a check for thank you note sent is extremely helpful!

Post # 6
12096 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

If the stationery will take time to order, I would just buy a box of plain notecards. 

Post # 7
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

I had the same question so this is good to know. On a similar note, do you send another card after the wedding to thank them for coming? Or is just the one card okay for the gift?

Post # 9
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

We recieved an early gift from my aunt (who couldn’t figure out how to RSVP online, so she mailed in her RSVP along with a gift lol). I called and thanked her right away and plan to send her a formal written thank you (with a picture from the day of) when we do all of the others after the wedding. 

Post # 10
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

pinkrose398 :  You don’t need to send another card after the wedding to thank them for coming – the reception is the thank you and you can also thank them in person for coming when you see them. Just one card for the gift is sufficient.

Post # 11
1965 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I sent out thank you cards as we received our gifts.

Post # 12
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2025 - City, State

Surely you have a notecard?  Don’t wait around for fancy stationery with the wrong name to ship!

I find it kind of weird to give your nephew an extra large gift this Christmas.  That’s basically giving part of their gift right back to them.

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