(Closed) When to send the gift?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1217 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hmm that’s tricky! I am not an etiquette guru, but I think it’s really sweet that you’re going to send a card in October, that’s really thoughtful. Did they tell everyone about the ceremony in October, or did they keep that info private and mostly just tell their friends and relatives about the celebrations in November and June? If the November ceremony is being kept under wraps then I would wait to send a gift a little before the celebration in June. I’m just thinking that they may not be prepared for gifts in October… We got a couple gifts soon after our engagement party in February, and our wedding isn’t until November, so it was a little awkward because we hadn’t ordered thank you cards yet, and we don’t live together so the gifts are in boxes at my FI’s house. It’s easier to sort out gifts closer to the “big day.” Butttt since it sounds like they are getting married in October, they’ll probably be moving in together than and might appreciate a wedding gift then.

Post # 5
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d send the card in October for the wedding and then give a gift for the summer reception. In terms of etiquette, you should always give a gift for a hosted party, so it seems more appropriate to give the gift for the reception.

Post # 6
3369 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@VAwife:  Ditto this. It’s so nice of you to even think to send a card in October! Most people would completely ignore it and only acknowledge the event that they are invited to. 

Congrats to your bestie!

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