Post # 1
I’m 13 weeks with our second baby and starting to think about when to share our news. Maybe I’m overthinking but I’m also trying to be thoughtful so… Here’s the situation:
Both a cousin and a friend are currently expecting their *first* babies. They don’t know each other at all FYI. My cousin is having a baby shower in mid-August so I was planning to share my news a couple of weeks after that. But then I realized my friend’s baby is due in early September. And then my cousin’s baby is due early October. I am not sure when to share my news because I want them to enjoy the focus, and again, they don’t know each other at all so would wouldn’t realize I’m trying to be respectful of both of them at the same time.
Am I overthinking this?
Post # 2
Yes, you are overthinking. All babies are happy news and your happy news doesn’t take anything away from them. No one needs an extended spotlight here you can all be happy for each other at the same time.
Post # 3
I just wanted to say what a lovely thoughtful friend you are! I would tell everyone after the shower but before the births, maybe tell your cousin now and just see what she says? I’m sure everyone will be thrilled for you!
Post # 4
Yes, you are overthinking this. The more babies the merrier! Apart from being sensitive to those undergoing infertility, and apart from doing an announcement *at* a baby shower, I really don’t think you need to worry about this. It would be incredibly self-centered of these women to think that you’re stealing their attention.
Post # 5
Neither of them need the “focus”, all babies are good news. You are way overthinking this, share the news whenever you feel comfortable. The only thing I might advise against is making the announcement at someone else’s baby shower.
Post # 6
You are overthinking. Share your news now. There is no reason to wait for other people to have their baby showers and babies and whatnot. Your news does not take away from their life experiences. Think of it as “the more the merrier” and not “I’m taking the spotlight off them.” People don’t have babies to grab some spotlight.
Post # 7
We got engaged right before my fiance’s sister had her baby. We drove up that weekend to visit the new baby and his whole family live in the same city too. We got people congratulating us but we didn’t let the focus be on us and instead made it about the baby and didn’t even bring up our engagement. It worked well. No one cared or felt we were stealing anything. Life happens and people know everyone has their own agenda and schedule. No mature adult thinks people are purposly doing life events to shaddow someone else’s.
If you really wanted to be polite you could announce as much time as you can before your cousins shower if you think by the time the shower happens the excitement and congrats will have died down? Or wait till after the shower. Don’t worry about delivery dates. Pregnant people get all the “attention” mostly when they announce the pregnancy and when they have a shower. Once the baby arrives its not as much exciting as, oh cool that went full circle now.
Post # 8
strawberrybee9 : You’re way overthinking it. Just announce whenever. My friend got pregnant in May and her Brother-In-Law and SIL got pregnant in June and the Brother-In-Law and SIL announced last week and my friend announced yesterday.
I’m pretty sure your friends and cousin weren’t ringing their hands to make sure they were conflicting with any of your special dates before they announced. I wouldn’t worry about it. Babies are joyous occassions.
Post # 9
strawberrybee9 : you are being so thoughtful! I am in the same camp as others that good news doesn’t take the lime light from other good news! Share your excitement! Congratulations!
Post # 10
Thanks, all! I’ll close this thread since I have my answer. (I’ll wait until after shower since it’s literally tomorrow but will share before the births.)