Post # 17
I am possibly the most impatient person in the entire world. Maybe the entire universe. When we first started dating, my fiance would always wait until the absolute last possible second to return RSVPs, and it would drive me crazy! You’re either going or not going – respond! I’m now in charge of returning RSVPs.
With all that said, even I would wait until after the RSVP deadline to start hounding people. Granted, I would only wait until a day after the deadline, but I’d still wait
Post # 18
My RSVP by date is tomorrow, and there’s still 30 invitations floating around. We’re going to start calling and emailing on Monday. Most of the people left are distant relatives, so I’m hoping they’re all no’s.
Post # 19
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I am going with the “wait until a few days after” it’s totally frustrating, and I so want to know right now, but I figured I would give 3 business days after so that if people mailed it on the deadline, I gave them some time. I made it kind of early on purpose.
Post # 20
I also made our RSVP date early on purpose. We had decent RSVP rates, but the worst offenders are our college age (about to graduate like us) friends who have never done this before. Not to mention, everyone’s life is in transition so some of them just honestly don’t know if they can make it yet, or how they’ll get there. That’s fine, but we appreciate at least being updated on the situation! It’s interesting sometimes being the “learning experience” for wedding etiquette among our friends…
Post # 21
We waited until the day after the deadline to start bugging people.
Post # 22
I bugged my friends with 1 email about a week before the deadline. I wouldn’t have asked the older guests (who would’ve been offended, probably), just my friends who I knew wouldn’t care. I phrased it as “we need to get the caterer some info, so if you could send in your RSVP, or just let me know whether you’re coming, sooner rather than later that would be great.” I got responses from everyone, so I think it was a good trade-off even though it was probably bad etiquette.
Post # 23
I made my deadline two weeks before I actually needed it so I would have a buffer to start contacting people after the deadline but before I had to let the caterer know my numbers.
Post # 24
I voted for the “wait until the deadline” option, but you could call people just to say “hi” and then work it into the conversation to see if they have decided to come or not. This is assuming you’re close enough to the people you invited to just phone them without it seeming odd (maybe wait on those second cousins until the deadline passes).
Post # 25
Thank goodness I’m not the only one going through this…
My deadline is tomorrow, and I’m waiting on 46 RSVPs from 92 people… for real? And most of the offenders are my family… ARGH! Curse people’s poor manners!