(Closed) when to start freaking out??

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Oh yeah.  You should definately be talking with them about flowers, menu, music by now.  Sounds like your venue has musicians and caterer on staff, but you need to pick the menu, right?  I would also think you would want to look at the musicians capabilities as far as types of music, set lists, song choices?  You will need to pick songs for the various parts of the ceremony as well as your reception (first dance, etc).

You don’t say whether they have a florist on staff, but I would think you would talk to her about your colors, flower choices, bouquets, corsages for the moms, boutonniers, whether you want floral arrangements on every table, if so what style and size… 

Probably menu and flowers are the biggest variability in cost – and it can be a huge range depending on your choices.

In general I would think that you would talk to them about everything you would talk to a caterer, band, and florist about if you contracted them separately.  I don’t think you’re too far behind – we have five months left and have chosen our menu, but are just starting detailed discussions with our florist and musicians.

I would also absolutely push for a contract.  If you show up down there and find that something/someone is not available as promised, it is not going to be easy to pull things together at the last minute.

Post # 5
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2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

It seems like you spend endless amounts of time talking with everyone – but that’s actually normal.  Luckily my vendors call me to remind me what questions I need to ask them – and give me advice about everything else too!  My latest surprise was having to pick actual music for the ceremony – to walk in and out to – which seems so simple (duh) but I had really only been thinking about general style of music for the reception.

Trying on dresses can be really fun – or horrible – but you should check with your dressmaker to make sure how much time she needs.  Probably not as much as ordering a dress, but mine is taking three months to ship and its a fairly simple style.

I don’t know anything about rings, as we are having ours made – takes about a month start to finish.  If you walk into a jewelry store I guess the rings in the case are for sale – not just samples like the dresses at the bridal salon??  I’m sure some of the other bees know…

The good thing about talking early to people like florists is that you can adjust your choices to your budget – they may start out really five-star, when what you want is a little less fancy – or just the opposite.  Because I gather the price really depends a lot on the type of flowers.

You will have to keep everybody posted – I know several bees who are having destination weddings were moaning about the lack of postings about stuff relevant to them.  And for those of us staying home, it will make us feel better that we don’t have to do all this on the phone and in an different language!!

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