Post # 1
We got married in July, I’m 29 and my husband is 34. I’d like to start TTC ASAP. He says he is not ready yet. Anybody else in the same boat? We both agree that we want to have kids, however I feel like time is not on our side and we should start soon. He thinks we need to enjoy our time together as newlyweds without being pregnant. I’m worried that if we wait to start trying, it could be a year or so before we are even pregnant. Any suggestions for helping my husband see that I am right???HA HA!!
Post # 3
Do you havve any reason why you would worry that you wouldn’t get preg right away? We are going to ttc right after the wedding because I do have health issues. I say it wouldn’t be a bad idea to wait 6 months or so if you could but how long is he wanting to wait? Did you talk about this before you got engaged?
Post # 4
29 is not old – you could easily wait a few years and still be able to fit 2 kids into the picture before age 36. I think your husband is wise to want you guys to have more time pre-kids – a well-established marriage is very important.
Post # 5
We are sort of in the same boat, except opposite. My husband is ready to start TTC and I am not ready yet. No baby fever here.
I think its important to be on the same page with babies. Your life will be forever different once you have kids. This is the only time you have to just be married and enjoy this period in your lives.
I’m 29 too, and neither you or your husband are old. Time *is* on your side.
Sorry I’m not very helpful, I understand that some women have baby fever, but for me, the enjoying this period of your life argument wins out.
Post # 6
29 is not old! We started trying right after I turned 29 and well first try, pregnant, so I think you definately both need to be on the same page about it.. When we first got married I also wanted to have that time with just him and I’m soooooo glad we had that time together. It was about a year and but we had a lot of fun and our relationship is even stronger than when we were dating.
Post # 7
Totally on the same boat! He definitely wants kids, but not just yet and I wanna start trying ASAP because I’m getting old.
If I had it my way, we would have been TTC on our honeymoon. After weeks of casually bringing up the topic and a couple of times actually having a talk with the hubs about my fears, I finally put my foot down and demanded for him to give me an actual date. My fear is we wait too long and then realize there’s problems and then it would further reduce our chances.
He wants to start trying after this winter so we compromised on Valentine’s Day. It’s been a month since we set a date and I’m now already thinking up ways to up the date!
As for suggestions, I gave him cold-hard facts! I made him take some test about conception and made him realize that getting pregnant isn’t as easy as he’s been hardwired to think! Though I’m not sure how well my plan worked since he still wants to wait … even if it’s just a few more months.