Post # 1
Just looking for some thoughts/experiences here…..
I am getting married in 3.5 months (Sept 15th) to the love of my life (eeeeeekkkkkkk) and we are planning to start TTC immediately; we’re talking wedding night start. I am 29, and he is 30 and we are both exactly where we want to be in life with careers, education, etc. I got off the pill 2 weeks ago, to allow myself a good 4 months off of it before we start. However, my fiance’ is becoming very inpatient and wants to start now, LOL. I really would like to enjoy my wedding and honeymoon, but would totally be okay if we were to get pregnant, while NOT trying. Now he is talking about starting the beginning of August, then the middle of August, and then Sept 1. LOL While I absolutely love that he is so excited, I’m just not sure when to start (using no protection). I’ve been ready for kids for years, but if I made it this long without getting pregnant, can’t I wait 3 more months till we’re married.
Post # 3
If you don’t mind getting pregnant before the wedding then why don’t you just not try and not prevent, just leave it up in the air, if it happens it happens if it doesn’t it doesn’t 🙂
Post # 4
Wait! If you got pregnant right away there is a big possibility you could be sick for your wedding and honeymoon. I had full blown sickness by 5 weeks. Also my doctor wouldn’t let me travel in my 1st trimester. There are so many things that will be going on with the wedding don’t add another thing to stress about.
If he wants to start trying now because he is afraid it might take some time, how about charting. You can include him in the process and he will feel like he has some control. This way when you come back from your honeymoon you can know which days you will be ovulating.
Post # 5
I am in a VERY smiliar situation! We are ready, well- he is ready like last year! but I’m ok waiting. Anyway, we decided to officially start TTC in August, the month that we are getting married. So what if I’m a few weeks KU for the wedding? Besides, if my cycles are regular for the next two months or so, I won’t ovulate until the week before the wedding, so I wouldn’t even be ready to POAS yet. I DEFINITELY won’t be showing.
I’ll still enjoy our honeymoon, and our trip to Ireland in January for a friend’s wedding, and I’ll still be able to do the things I like to do (except drinking!), so I don’t really see it as a big deal to get started right away.
Post # 6
I also really hate to say this and hope to god that it does not happen to you, but what if you did get pregnant and were to miscarriage. You wouldn’t be able to enjoy your wedding or honeymoon. I know it’s a morbid thought and I’m sorry, but it can happen and I would hate for your dream wedding to be surrounded by those memories.
Post # 7
My husband and I were kind of in the same boat. I got off BC in January and were NTNT, but then in February I was approaching my fertile window according to FF… We decided not to BD and avoid for another month, but then at the last minute I changed my mind. Well, O was detected one day prior to that so we missed it. We got married in March and I O’ed a few days before the wedding, and we did conceive.. (sadly ended in MC). I was fine with possibly being pregnant on my wedding day/wedding vacation (we did a DW), but that’s just me. I am not a big drinker so if I couldn’t drink I wouldn’t be crushed. Is your dress forgiving of a baby bump? I personally would not want to have a huge baby bump on my wedding day, but I’d be okay with being 1-3 months pregnant on my wedding day.. Sooo I’d say wait until July/August if I was in your boat, but that is totally just my personal preference =)
Post # 8
Honestly 3 months will fly by! You could always take this time to work on becoming healthier, taking your prenatals, and enjoying your summer. You never know how you’re gonna feel when you’re pregnant, so if it were me I wouldn’t want to risk it before my wedding. That being said, only you and your Fiance will know when the time is right. Good luck on whatever you decide. 🙂