Post # 1
Okay so here’s the detailed verison of what’s going on:
Long story short:
I’m due May 18th with my first child. I’m a receptionist at a law firm so they are bringing in a temp while I’m on a 3 month leave. My boss asked if May 9th was okay to be my last day because the agency needed to know. I said fine but he said I can change it for now since they still don’t have a person.
Pro of leaving a week before due date: I’ll have time to myself to just relax and mentally prepare myself and physically prepare the house (if possible) lol
Con of leaving a week before due date: If my son is late that’s a week+ time that I will miss with him.
I have a poll above please vote and help me figure out what to do
Pregnancy has been very smooth sailing, have only gained 25 pounds, he’s very healthy, BUT my feet are super swollen and sleeping is very missed.
Post # 2
If it was me, I would take off as little time as I needed before the due date. More time before the due date means less time with your newborn baby.
A co-worker of mine at my old job actually went into labor while at work on her due date. She refused to take even 1 day off before she was actually having her baby to maximize her maternity leave.
Post # 3
s best for you. Youve already had a lot of feedback in your other post.
Post # 4
julies1949: I think it’s just soo hard to pick a day esp since it’s my first ya know so I don’t know what to expect. But thanks for helping ladies
Post # 5
Everyone at my job works up until their due date. It doesn’t sound like your job is very strenuous so I would work until 2 days before so I wouldn’t waste my time. I don’t think you needed more than one post though but the poll makes it easy For people that may not want to write comments.
Post # 6
I left at 37 weeks. I work retail and was on my feet and walking for 8+ hours a day. It got to the point I could barely stand, let alone walk. I ended up delivering at 39 weeks. 2 weeks off was perfect- I got a lot of cleaning and projects done and was able to rest and really prepare for her arrival.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
eecuadrado: Unless I had complications or deliver early I plan to take off starting on my due date. My job is pretty low stress and since it’s a desk job it’s far from strenuous. I would get stir crazy and drive my husband who works from home crazy too if I stayed home too early.
Post # 8
I took leave a week before my due date because it was the Tuesday after Thanksgiving, and I worked at a school, so it was really only taking the one Monday off–I just left work the Tuesday before when everyone else did and didn’t go back. It was an easier break for the kids than if I’d come back on Monday.
I’m glad I did, because I ended up going into labor on Sunday night, so it was perfect. HOWEVER, facing a whole week plus of nothingness (I was already really prepared) was really daunting and I’m glad it happened how it did–I’d have been seriously bored and anxious and symptom-spotting.
I’d just plan to work until your due date. If you go into labor before that, then great! But I have lots of friends who went 1+week over with their first and I wouldn’t want all the time sitting around.
Post # 9
I would take as little time as possible off before your due date so you get more time with baby. I fully intended to work until I delivered (I work retail), but my boss was awesome and “forgot” to schedule me two weeks before my due date. That time off didn’t count towards my leave either.
Post # 10
I guess I’m the only one who thinks you should consider starting your leave early! I guess you have to consider how prepared you are, if you are a first time mom, how you feel, etc.
i too planned on starting my leave near my due date which my doctor moved up from May 14 to May 1 since I’m expecting multiples. As circumstances would haven’t I got pregnant right after I graduated nursing school in August. I studied my ass off to pass my boards and spent hours every day pounding the pavement to land my firat job and finally went right to work at my first nursing job by November. The job is hard, like beyond what I imagined. I worked overtime every single day, it was workin out well until I reached about 34 weeks and extrairdinary fatigue set in, also hip pain 8/10….I had felt so great up until then. i also started to get so sad that I had not had time to enjoy pregnancy. All I did was work and sleep, barley getting through…and I wasn’t prepared at all! All the gifts from the shower sat in boxes, no bag packed, no laundry done…I was useless on the weekends being so exhausted I could only accomplish a few things a day and most of that ended up being housework, cooking, bills. Still no time to prepare for baby. My husband helped when he could, but he works 2 jobs. I guess I just hit a wall…my doc warmed me I would at some point, all expectant twin moms do. She said I broke some kind of record for working up to 36 weeks. Lol. So I’m done, babies expected anytime between now and May 1. I hope they are here soon because I can’t imagine needing more than a few more days to finish preparing….and yes if they don’t arrive until May 1, then I will have lost 3 weeks that could have been spent with them but although my twins are #1, so is my sanity. So I’ll get 9 weeks with them at minimum…I think I can live with that knowing I was able to take this time to get some rest, ready my home, etc. going straight from the painstaking work I do to taking care of twins seemed like it would be too much for me Especially since my husband can’t take much time off with me…..but you have to know yourself! life is about to change, just remember your not going on a 12 week vacation!
Having said that I think if I was pregnant with a single or if these weren’t my first, things might be differnt.
Post # 11
gelaine22: MissTatas: beachbride1216: Jess1483: Fall_In_Love22: fresitachulita: Thanks my lovely ladies but now I’m being told a MONTH before my due date that I can’t take 12 weeks only 8 weeks. Smh I cried and apparently we’re having a meeting about it today.
Post # 12
eecuadrado: Whaat? Are you in the US?
Post # 13
I would work as close to your due date as you can and take the leave after the baby.
I guess your office isn’t subject to FMLA rules. It is probably too small. 8 weeks maternity leave is pretty typical.
Post # 14
I worked up until I went into labor, which happened to be on a Sunday night. I only got 4 weeks, half of which was unpayed since I found out I was pregnant right after starting the job. Full benefits hadn’t kicked in…Boo. Take as much time as you can, but even if you can only get 8 weeks, enjoy every minute of it!
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
eecuadrado: Does your company fall under FMLA rules? If they have more than 50 employees they are covered by FMLA which requires they offer up to 12 weeks if you’ve worked there for more than a year. If they employ less then you need to check the employee handbook to see if it mentions maternity leave. They are bound by the terms of the employee handbook unless they give you adequate notice of a change (it’s unlikely notice at this point can be considered adequate notice). I know you work for lawyers so don’t be afraid to speak to a lawyer you trust outside the firm about the situation.